Not that I’m an authority or anything, but I do get to hang around a bunch of girls, and there’s something that has not been addressed here.
Girls get unwanted sexual attention from the day they start to pop. Simply riding the bus to school is a gauntlet for them. They deal with it constantly and each has their own coping strategy. Those who fit the current ideal presented by the media are able to parlay that for what they want. IE Dating the "it " guys, with the nice cars or whatever. They are the subject of scorn and jealously and god knows what from those outside this circle. If they are thin, rumours of eating disorders etc will circulate. Other girls will recognize all this for the extreme bullshit that it is and will place themselves outside this arena by simple not confrming to whatever ideal is attracting all the attention. These are some smart girls. They will get a little chunky, they will dress a little weird, and by these simple things , will attract people and friends who see them for who they are.
They are arguably much more in control of their environment and are manipulating their input to what they consider to be appropriate and healthy.
It is amazing what you can learn if you can just sit down and listen to them.
It’s amazing that you think that girls who “dress weird and get a little chunky,” are more in control of their environment than those of us who happen to fit into what guys like to look at.
I’m not going to change who I am so that men won’t look at me. Frankly, it doesn’t bother me that much, and I do have friends and a boyfriend who see me for what I am. Just because I like looking good doesn’t mean I don’t have a healthy way of being.