Sometimes, sexual activity requires mutual masturbation rather than intercourse.
This gal that I’ve been with of late suggests that, rather than me being free and potentially making a mess out of the bed, she would prefer if I wore a condom when masturbating me to, well, contain the excitement. She says all her former guys always have. This proposition sounds just absurd to me. I can understand wearing that little rubber hat to protect against STDs and pregnancy, but why on Earth would I want to dull my senses just to keep from making a mess?? To me, this makes about as much sense as my old aunt using those plastic slipcovers on her furniture to keep it from getting dirty!
I asked a couple of friends if they’ve ever used a condom solely for this purpose, and they’ve emphatically answered, “no”. Anybody else ever been asked to wear a 'dome for the sole purpose of “cleanliness”?
IME, it’s so difficult to be manually stimulated while wearing a condom as to make it not worth the effort. The condom will constantly try to bunch up, and you’ll have to use so much oil-based lube as to make a larger mess than just going for it. If you want a clean handjob, slip a sock on just before you come. It sounds and looks stupid, sure, but it works:) Perhaps you could do it in the shower, or just put a towel down before you go at it? Of course, oral sex is also an option, if you guys are into that.
It’s really hard to avoid posing a potentially insulting smart-assed question about your girlfriend’s work history, here.
Whew. Glad I managed to dodge that one!
In my opinion, a towel is the way to go, if you don’t have a designated spunkmop.
Sheesh…Everyone knows that when masturbating, you are supposed to unload all over the woman’s face. Since it’s in all those movies, all women must love it.
You’re welcome.
Tell her she needs to wear a female condom so your hands stay clean. At $2 a pop, and as awkward as they are to apply, it might make her reconsider right quick.
Actually, if she frequently has cuts or such on her hands, it might not be a bad idea to use fingercots, or gloves, or a condom. Viruses and bacteria and whatnot, you know. Besides, semen in an open wound can really burn.
The Lady B and I have used them for cleanliness during regular intercourse (camping or such when showering later is difficult) but not for this.
I suspect your girlfriend has a hangup that previous boyfriends were willing to tolerate for the sake of a handjob. You seem to have to make the same decision.
She came by for a coffee this afternoon. I brought up the subject and told her I thought it was absurd and I’m not going to do it any more. She said that she knows how I feel about it and unless I wear one, I won’t be getting anything. I told her that, in fact, it was my ultimatum, not hers, and unless we go my way, she’s cut off.
It’s not an unreasonable request from her from a safer sex perspective. It’s easy to get semen in your eye (so I’m told) in the heat of the moment, and that’s a no-no when it comes to safety. You should probably wear latex/vinyl gloves when reciprocating if disease prevention is an issue for you.
< takes hat off >
Ever thought about discussing alternative strategies? Instead of hand jobs which seem to be a point of contention? It’s not like there aren’t a squillion other ways to express your sexuality…
Me, I use condoms all the time… saves the trouble of having to go wash the strap on every single time…
