The condom discussion in What are your most extreme, honestly held views? has, well, excited my curiousity. (Hey, my mind wanders down many passageways). Gentlemen, would having to wear a condom deter you from wanting to have sex with a woman? Ladies, would refusal to wear a condom be a dealbreaker for a sexual encounter?
It’s a theoretical dealbreaker with me. Until it wasn’t. My SO has ED pretty bad. Male condoms are like trying to put a raincoat on a limp ferret, and we can’t find female condoms anywhere. So, after many attempts and frustration all 'round, we decided to go the testing-and-monogamy route instead.
He’s the only one I’ve let get away with it, though. Well, except that one time with my ex when we were intentionally conceiving a child, of course. Other guys have tried, with strategies ranging from debate to whining to attempted subterfuge (caught him), and I’ve kicked 'em all out of bed for it.
Dealbreaker. Absolutely. Wear one or get none.
Guy here. Not a deterrent at all.
Total dealbreaker. Even back when I was single and dating around it was a massive dealbreaker. I don’t care if you [claim to ] have the printout from your doctor with medical testing results, glove it.
Male, not a deterrant.
It depends if it’s a committed monogamous relationship. If so, then it’s barebacking. If not, then it’s a condom or we do other activities.
Male, and no condom would be a dealbreaker for me, outside of a long-term, monogamous relationship. Probably somewhere after the 6-month mark?
Male. It would be a dealbreaker to not wear one, even in a long term relationship.
Male. Not a deterrent. Especially if she’s hot.
I was born in 1981. AIDS prevention talks were so prevalent in school, the very idea of having sex with a new partner without a condom on wouldn’t even cross my mind. In fact, I can recall at least one time when I was in bed nekkid with a gorgeous young lady, both aching for it, but not doing anything because no rubbers were to be found that night. So I can attest I’m not just talk on this one 
Back in the day, I was prepared to wear one with any sexual encounter, and did. It’s how business gets done, as they say.
These days, after 16 years together, 13 of them married, 2 kids and one vasectomy, it’s safe to say that I’ll never wear one again. And we are both happy about that.
Yup. Was when we were dating and since I can’t take the pill, it was what we used until his vasectomy.
Never was an issue or heard any complaining.
Male. Not a deterrent.
And I’ve never had one spin off before.
Until I’m having sex with a girl with whom I want to have a baby, I’m going to wrap it up every time. My last girlfriend actually complained about it, saying she couldn’t feel my essence through 1/16 of an inch of polyurethane (she’s very woo). Lucky for me that I did, since she ended up getting pregnant with the next guy three times in 2.5 years. Apparently she’s very, very fertile.
No deterrent. My partner not wanting to use one would be a big red flag and possibly cause me to run.
Male here, in the 32nd year of marriage. They’re still* not a dealbreaker for me. It’s fun with or without, and I’m puzzled why it’s such a big deal for some guys.
*The missus requests them sometimes, as in “before-work” fun. For obvious reasons.
Male. I’m fine with “No glove, no love.”
This. The last thing I want is a kid with a woman it won’t work out with.
I guess I’m going to stand out like a sore… thumb here, but I hate them. It’s like having a bath with your socks on.
If I’m in a LTR and we have both been tested and we are using alternate contraception, then I very much prefer not to use them.