I mostly meet women in bars, get phone number, call the standard three days later, but only very occasionally am I able to convert these prospective dates into actual dates. I never get fake names or numbers which leads me to conclude that at least at the moment of number giving the woman is interested in seeing me again. So what gives? Explanations or tips would be appreciated.
To put my situation into context: I am a male, mid-twenties, good job, decent looking and am not desperate nor act so. The women I am meeting could be similarly described. I usually spend a half hour to an hour in conversation before getting a number and moving on.
“call the standard three days later”
From reading the boards, it seems that there is no “standard” waiting period. If you want to spend time with one of these girls, don’t delay.
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So you leave her sitting there and, while she’s watching, approach your next prospect? That’s it, kiddo. If you like her enough to want to ask her out, and the conversation is going well, hang out and talk to her until one of you is ready to leave.
I suggest a faster timetable.
Thinking back to my days as a single gal, there were times when I gave my phone number to quite a few guys. Someone who waited three days to call me? I might not remember who the heck he was. Or I might think he wasn’t very interested in me, since it took three days for him to get around to calling.
Well, how do you know she isn’t giving her number out to every man that comes along?
She may be prospecting as well, and that is why this method of finding a date isn’t working for the OP. Perhaps the woman he calls has already been called by the man she really wanted to date?
Just a thought. 
Could be – I’m just saying from my (single female) POV, if I was talking with a guy in a bar and liked him enough to give him my phone number, and he pocketed the number and wandered off and started talking to some other woman, I’d think “Oho, that’s the game,” and I’d blow him off when he called. If the point is to meet someone you want to date, having succeeded in meeting that person on that particular night, you don’t then try to score additional phone numbers. I’m not saying I’d expect a bar pickup to turn out to be Mr. Right and that we’d be married in six months and making babies in a year – just that if he were actually interested in me as a person, and not just a “score,” he wouldn’t move on immediately to the next prospect. esp. with me sitting there watching.
Whoa right there, me Bukko!
After a few minutes of chatting her up, start watching the level of her beer/drink. When it gets close to the bottom, say: “Lets get out of here. I know a better place, or we can go for a walk, or how about a 'burger, or yadda, yadda, yadda.” Whatever it takes. She’ll probably be with friends. Bring them too, if necessary. They’ll lose interest and move on soon enough.
If you’re really interested in the woman, make your first date be the same night you meet her.
Settle for a phone number only after better, more direct methods have failed. Then don’t wait three days. 5:30 the next morning is a great time to get her attention. Play that right and you can have her laughing with you instead of cussing at you in just a minute or two.