No I am not talking about Live Aid, I know you can’t!
In the mid 90’s Mr Geldof’s wife (Paula Yates) with whom he had three daughters, left him and ran off with INXS lead man, Michael Hutchence (sp?) made him about the most visible cuckold in the world and had a child with her new man. Of course within a couple of years it all fell apart, Hutchence committed suicide and then soon after Yates died of a drug overdose, leaving the child orphaned. At this point Geldof became her guardian saying she should be raised with her sisters, and he laer adopted her.
I was wondering if anyone has been in a situation like that, and if you were what would you do? I know if I was, I would be far less generous and want nothing to do with him or her, I know it sounds terrible but the child would be a living symbol of someone who destroyed my family. Which is why I admire Geldof, he took her in and raised her as his own daughter.
I have always planned to adopt a child anyway, so I would expect that if I ever faced an analogous situation that I would want the kid to live with me. Besides, the kid is my other kids’ half-sibling, and I’m sure they would want it that way.
Plus once your ex is dead, I imagine that helps put the ex’s bad behavior in perspective. Does it really matter anymore at that point? Even if it does, well, it’s not the child’s fault that his/her parents were wankers.
Of course, there is the ultimate revenge, you raise the wife stealers as your own and s/he knows him as your parent not the wife stealer. I am not saying that Sir Bob had that in mind, but still.
Absolutely! It’s not like it’s an unrelated child - it’s his childrens’ sibling for goodness sakes. I think the sisters should be raised together. Besides, she’s merely a child. Why should she suffer for the bad choices of her mother, by being segregated from the rest of her family, which her half-sisters are? IMO, there would be no other option, period.
Probably. I mean, I am female, so I couldn’t be cuckolded, actually. One of my worst fears is that if I were to die before my daughter turns 18, she and her brother might be separated – they have different fathers. Her bio-father is pretty much worthless on the parenting scale, but it still bothers me. As a mother, I would take in my ex’s kid if it happened like that and I had the resources. A child doesn’t choose his parents.
No matter how much I hated my ex-wife and the man she went off with, I don’t think I’d blame their child(ren), so if they became orphaned, I would think this a reasonable thing to do.
Anyone who followed the whole drama knows that Mr Geldof’s breakup was not pretty, hell Paula yates and her new boy toy wasted no oppurtunity to attack him.
I suppose it would depend on the situation, Geldofs situation was very nasty indeed.
Was never proved though, and the verdict of suicide seems appropriate. Of course, Mr Geldof came out of it looking more saintly then before. And Mr Hutchence… well I was always an INXS fan, but still.
When my son was a child, his half brother and half sister from his mother and step father were often included in activities on visitation weekends. Today, I have a closer relationship with the half brother that I do my own son. I also accepted my step daughters as my own when I married their mother, today I am called Dad and they are my daughters as far as I am concerned. I don’t think I would have a problem raising an ex’s child.
I would like to think I or anyone would do no less. She is the sister of his own daughters and the orphaned small child of the woman he once loved. This is a lesson to his children that they and he are their sisters’ keeper. I had not heard this before. Tip of the hat to Sir Bob.
If the child had no parents (and thusly my ex and the cheating person were both dead), then yeah, I think i wouldn’t find it difficult to raise the child. However, if the Child had one of those two around, I think it would be a much harder choice to make…
Sir Bob did a good thing, keeping his daughters and their sister together. However he is no saint, and I’ll wait a few years for Tiger Lily’s tell-all book before I start publically congratulating him.
Geldof put the past behind him and concentrated on what is important now. I’d like to believe I could do the same.
He is a fine example of the good one person can do. The child’s bioparents commit suicide and die of a drug overdose, and she still gets a good upbringing.
