Could you have a satisfying sex life with a partner who would only do oral & manual?

[WhyNot]

@BigT

Okay, I feel like an idiot for my previous response. No, I have never had PIV sex. But I asked the wrong question. What is it that is better about PIV sex? I can see the differences, obviously, but what makes it better, from a physiological perspective?

Which is better, a back rub or a back scratch? Why?

Obviously, some people will enjoy one more than the other. Some enjoy both so much that they’re not willing to give up either. Some find them so similar that they’re interchangeable, and could give up back rubs for back scratches or vice-versa. And some may have a partner who isn’t willing or able to do one, but will do the other, and so they’re willing to forgo one, even if they really like it, because they like their partner more than they like the back rubs or back scratches.

[Anaamika]

As long as I could use toys, I’d probably get by.

[Rachellelogram]

It would depend if my partner was willing to use sextoys such as a strap on and/or manually handling a dildo. I could not live with only fingers or tongue penetrating my vag for the rest of my life, no.

[Lorski]

No. I don’t like giving or receiving oral.

[Ann_Hedonia]

@Freudian_Slit

Sure. I don’t really get off from penetrative intercourse anyway (vaginal stimulation isn’t my thing) so I think it would be fine.

This is a really great username / post combo

[Malacandra]

@rachelellogram

It would depend if my partner was willing to use sextoys such as a strap on and/or manually handling a dildo. I could not live with only fingers or tongue penetrating my vag for the rest of my life, no.

So you’ve definitely given up on this idea of living in a permanently sexless relationship, then?

[Rachellelogram]

@Malacandra

So you’ve definitely given up on this idea of living in a permanently sexless relationship, then?

I haven’t had sex since I posted that, months ago. My, but we do have a long memory.

+1 board stalker

[Freudian_Slit]

@rachelellogram

I haven’t had sex since I posted that, months ago. My, but we do have a long memory.

+1 board stalker

Is everyone who brings up something you’ve said in the past a +1 board stalker?

[Palo_Verde]

Female: absolutely and totally yes

[Rachellelogram]

@Freudian_Slit

Is everyone who brings up something you’ve said in the past a +1 board stalker?

Yes, when it’s not constructively adding to the conversation and instead being used as a tool to somehow discredit or embarrass me (although as you probably know by now, I have no shame).

Don’t worry FS, you’re winning. Already at +3, at least.

[don_t_ask]

Male. About 18 months ago my SO decided we should be “celibate” by which she meant oral and manual sex only. It was just a whim on her part and I went along with it just for the hell of it. Turned out to be pretty good fun. I guess it lasted about 3 months and then we went back to anything goes.

[drachillix]

I would assume, bio geeks please correct me if I’m wrong, penetrative sex is an innate behavior. We have a couple hundred thousand years of successful instinct telling us to to do so. We are hard wired to want penetration because it makes more humans.

[Freudian_Slit]

@drachillix

I would assume, bio geeks please correct me if I’m wrong, penetrative sex is an innate behavior. We have a couple hundred thousand years of successful instinct telling us to to do so. We are hard wired to want penetration because it makes more humans.

I think we’re hard wired to want orgasms but why would it matter how we get them? It’s not like our “instinct” (for lack of a better word) is distinguishing between satisfaction obtained from penetrative vs. other means.

[Zsofia]

Well, mine definitely distinguishes. Cats gotta groom themselves, hermit crabs gotta find another shell, I gotta have the cock. <shrug>

[Freudian_Slit]

For me, there’s a difference, but penetrative just doesn’t do anything for me. Maybe I’m not hard wired to create more humans.

[Anaamika]

I just can’t see giving up my current SO because of that. In a new relationship it would most definitely be a dealbreaker but after fourteen years I am not willing to place penetrative sex over the relationship itself…no sexual contact at all would be much harder to deal with.

[Diogenes_the_Cynic]

@Freudian_Slit

I think we’re hard wired to want orgasms but why would it matter how we get them? It’s not like our “instinct” (for lack of a better word) is distinguishing between satisfaction obtained from penetrative vs. other means.

Mine does. The experiences are qualititively different.

[Malacandra]

@rachelellogram

Yes, when it’s not constructively adding to the conversation and instead being used as a tool to somehow discredit or embarrass me (although as you probably know by now, I have no shame).

Don’t worry FS, you’re winning. Already at +3, at least.

I’m not a board stalker, but I have a good memory for apparent inconsistencies, especially when they seem associated with flitting from one brand of attention-getting to another. You ain’t all that.

[DianaG]

I’m amazed at all the people who’ve said they’d be fine as long as they could have toys. I mean, good on ya and all, but for me, having a toy in my vagina and having a cock in my vagina aren’t remotely the same thing.

[Freudian_Slit]

@DianaG

I’m amazed at all the people who’ve said they’d be fine as long as they could have toys. I mean, good on ya and all, but for me, having a toy in my vagina and having a cock in my vagina aren’t remotely the same thing.

Well, for me, I don’t really get off for anything in my vagina, and toys go way faster than a hand…so for me, toys are better! Better orgasms through science!