If I have to open my wallet often enough that George and Abe stop blinking at the light, she’s high maintenance. 
What the majority of posters in this thread have defined as high maitenance is that type of behavior, though. Anything else would be confined to ones physical appearance. Is that the only way you’d define high maitenance?
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You know people who would leave their kid crying to put on makeup? That’s nutty. QUOTE]
Actually, that sounds like teaching the kid not to be high maintenance. Seriously, there’s nothing wrong with letting a kid cry. It actually reduces bratty behavior in the future as they learn the crying will not cause mommy or caregiver to drop everything and run do their bidding.
And if they don’t stop crying, you can kill them!
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To put it less dramatically than The Goddess, 
we’re talking about an infant in a crib, not a 5-year-old who can wait 5 minutes for his cookie.
There’s a difference between “doing their bidding” and “caring for your child,” you know. Children’s needs don’t make them brats.
Clearly, as this thread indicates, it means different things to different people.
For me, ‘high maintenance’ means a woman who’s birthday, anniversary, can never be forgotten without the relationship being put on the rocks. Valentine’s day and Christmas require ‘significant’ gifts, it’s not just the thought that counts. She says stuff like, “Oh, I could never drive a used car! I’d never shop at Walmart, eat a Denny’s, etc.” Would never stay in a two star hotel, go camping, be happy at a cottage, only drinks imported wine, etc. Can’t wear last years fashions, like that.
A person who needs to have perfect makeup, hair and clothes is not high maintenance, they’re vain.
High maintenance means a lot of effort is required to maintain a relationship. Requiring frequent compliments and reassurance. Having to often apologize for perceived slights. Spending time doing what they prefer instead of what you prefer. Making many small sacrifices for them, without reciprocation. That’s high maintenance.
You’re welcome.
Personally, I’d consider anyone who presumes to tell me how to spend my own money and demands that I eat at Denny’s pretty fucking high maintenance.
Are you two that can’t read for content done congratulating each other on a point that nobody has made and isnt relevant to the thread?
My point is that making unreasonable demands, whether it’s “Everyone pay attention to me!” or “Everyone wait 20 minutes while I put on my makeup” or “Hurry up, makeup is stupid” or “Just settle for a Grand Slam, don’t be so fucking high maintenance” makes one high maintenance.
Oh hey, it’s the thread police! So glad you showed up to trot out the tired “reading for content” BS. Man, it’s a good thing that old ridiculous quasi-insult will never get old! (sarcasm!)
Try having a look at posts #16 and #17 in which helpful souls try to evaluate someone’s maintenance on the things they buy. Now, once you’ve absorbed that FOR CONTENT! you can skip on back and give us some more of your disdain. It’ll be great!
Usually in these cases, investigation or confirmation from a third party (usually the man’s friend or friendly relative) is required: is the woman low maintenance, or is the husband so whipped he just thinks she is?
One point that hasn’t been touched on yet is that women don’t know what they want. If you ask a woman what she wants out of life, the average answer is everything. If you ask her she has to make tradeoffs, she has a difficult time doing it. However, if you give her a choice, she will usually pick the one that lacks logic or reason.
Example: this is an exercise that I do with 17-21 year old women. I’ve done it over the course of 10 years with maybe a 1000 women so far from over 5 different countries.
List 5 things you are looking for in a husband and rank them in order of importance.
Average list:
- Honesty
2-3. Face/Hair/Height other natural features (Usually related to DNA) - Fit body, not fat (takes care of himself)
- Good worker, good job, money (related to finances)
Then, I ask them a series of questions:
Q. What if you met an honest, handsome guy with a nice body who was dirt poor?
A. No way. (Eliminates 1-4)
Q: How about a short, fat, ugly guy who was richer than Bill Gates?
A. Sure. (Usually I ask more questions, each one eliminating one of the choices.)
In every single case except one, over a 10 year span, the actual order of the preferences are reversed. 5 is actually #1, while 1 is actually not even a factor.
After confirming this with many female friends over the years, I found out a simple truth: Women don’t know what they want.
Imho, the criteria for all women (which is why I said no woman was “low maintenance”) is:
- They can’t tell you what they want, because in all honesty, they don’t know.
- They are never satisfied with what they have, even if, 10 seconds ago, they said they wanted it more than anything else in the world.
- They are never happy.
Imho, if you really want to see this in action, hang out with a group of 12-13 year old girls for a few months or a year. They’re too young yet to learn how to hide it, so all of their emotions are easy to read, and there’s a truth to their behavior that is reflected in older women as well.
Having children does affect women and seems to have a positive effect on their ability to be satisfied and it does seem to align their thoughts and emotions to be more rational and less fickle. However, I have confirmed with many women with kids that indeed the criteria above is true before they had kids but their thinking changed afterwords.
What an odd little hobby you have.
Wow. That was an impressive display of both misogyny and irrelevance. Congratulations!
It’s like a store is offering a 2-for-1 deal.
See, I had to put that in shopping terms so that our poor, estrogen-laden brains could comprehend it.
Sounds like someone is a little bitter and jaded after being rejected by numerous women in high school…
You may want to reassess your pick-up techniques.
She’s not being given a hard time about wanting to put on some mascara and lip gloss–she’s being given a hard time about keeping a whole group of hungry people who have shit to get done waiting while she does a wardrobe change and makeup. That’s not taking pride in your appearance, that’s being a pure-D pain in the ass.
And that, imo, is the real definition of high maintenance–someone who thinks nothing of being a pure-D pain in your ass to get what they want. That can take a lot of forms, but that’s the heart of it.
i would have to say that it would stem from the parenting she received when she was younger. did mom have a lot of bf’s and no dad? was dad a pushover to mom? was the mother completely submissive? are you the male completely submissive to the female in question? if you answered yes to at least one of these then you are on the right path to high maintenance. siblings play a part too. did she have all bros? i say this because most brothers are very protective of their sisters. this over protection can lead to the princess complex. Also commonly known as the “MY S**T DON’T STINK” persona…lots of modifiers can contribute to the high maintenance. and i agree with my friend…let me know when you find a low maintenance one. preferably breathing
-rs
Superhal, is it that women don’t know what they want, or they won’t admit what they want because it isn’t societally acceptable?