Here’s my problem. I am curious about sexual toys and would like to include them when my wife and I…well you know. (BLUSH). She’s not all that curious though and has turned her nose up at it when we have had joking discussions about it in the past. Now I am not talking about running out and buting the largest dildo I can lay my hands on but what is the best way to introduce this kind if stuff into a relationship
Get her one of these. If you’re not familiar with vibrators, this one is for external use only. I remember wondering how the heck it was supposed to work the first time I got it, so just thought I’d mention that. It also has the advantage of officially being a ‘massager’, so maybe it won’t be quite so embarrassing or scary to use the first time. (Unlike a 12" black penis-shaped monstrosity)
Anyway, to get back to the subject at hand, let the ol’ Magic Wand do the talking. Trust me, she’ll love you for it.
My fiancee did the same thing the first time I mentioned them. Then I bought something called “The Clit Rocket”. Its about the size of a lipstick tube and when I hold it to her hood hes usually spraying all over in 3 minutes tops.
Its great foreplay and lets be honest sometimes I just dont feel up to the job.
Isn’t it obvious? Until you get her approval, you can’t and therefore shouldn’t try to “introduce this kind of stuff.”
Talk with her seriously, not jokingly. Tell her how you feel and that you would like to try something, BUT ONLY IF SHE APPROVES!
IFF she says she’ll give it a shot, go so a “shop” and look around. Let her pick out the toy. Be supportive. Don’t make comments that you think are funny (we guys are horribly inept at making tense situations humorous a la “Hey, if I bought one of these thingies I wouldn’t even need you.”) and DON’T look at any other women/workers/mannequins/pictures/advertisements in the store.
If she finds nothing she’s interested in, go home. Don’t pout. Be supportive. If she is comfortable with the first shopping experience she may go again.
She already expressed her disinterest. You probably won’t get anywhere with a “Try it you’ll like it” attitude.
Start small. Install one of those hand-held shower massage things. Take a shower together and show her how good the extra stimulation feels. Maybe this will open her up to new possibilities.