How many of you nice normal-on-the-outside-but-trashy-on-the-inside dopers are using toys.
My wife and I started using small vibrators after the birth of our first child - a process that seems to have resulted in reduced sensations for her. At first we were using purely external stimulations but a recent aquisition has lead us to experimenting with toys intended for internal use.
So - the sort-of poll part…
Do you feel threatened by the toy? ie: some sort of competitive jealousy? ( I have to admit I sometimes do)
Favorite types and or brands? (We’ve found the “Penthouse” brand to be nice and the “Adam and Eve”)
What are your limits? (for us, all is relatively small and handheld, nothing for the backdoor areas. We’re not into anything that would require sheets of plastic or eyebolts, either.)
We don’t use them every time but maybe 2/3 of the time. All the toys are really for her and, with some cooperation, us but nothing is really just intended for me, ie: no artificial girlie parts - just makes me shudder to think of those.
Well, I’m not using any at this very moment but…
Can’t beat the Japanese Fucko 2000 finger vibrators, wear them to a fettish club, and everyone will want a back rub
For more serious use a TENS unit is very good for releaving back ache, but with a little ingenuity it can releive other ‘aches’ as well. (warning: TENS units can be dangerous, you need to learn how to use one safely).
I have a Rabbit, which I love. I have a cheaper version of the Rabbit, called the Hummingbird. Which I also love. I have a wand vibrator that doesn’t work as well as the other two, but it’s still nice. I have a cyberskin dildo which I strongly recommend. It feels real, and it’s much more comfortable than cold, hard plastic. I have two other dildos…one kind of large, one kind of small. I like to experiment with different sizes. In fact, for Christmas I think I will buy a 4th dildo of different size and color. We don’t have any toys specifically for him…he’s not interested.
As for how much of a threat it is…I rarely use the toys by myself. My husband is always an active participant, which I really appreciate. We have a lot of fun together, picking out the toys, playing with them, and experimenting.
When we were younger (20-30) I admit that I did feel threatened by the idea of using toys. Not really sure why - perhaps a fear that she would like ‘them’ better than ‘me’. [Shugs] But, as our relationship matured we learned to spice up the vanilla a bit.
Now toys of all sorts are an integral part of our play. The Rabbit is a good one - sends the Piratess right through the roof so it is used somewhat rarely.
As for limits, well, we have found a few, but they will remain behind that door over there. We haven’t had to break out the plastic sheeting (yet), but don’t knock the eyebolts until you’ve tried them.
The only “toy” I own is a few lengths of nylon rope. ::evil grin:: Was gifted a vibrator once, but, well, that got ungifted after the person found out I didn’t really enjoy it.
Sex toys = much fun for couples, easy really. Not having used them outside that scenario I have no idea but am reliably informed that they are just as much fun for singles
My boyfriend and I have gone to Fascinations, the local non-trashy sex shop around these parts, and tried out a bunch of things. I have a micro-tingler bullet- which I really like, but it took us trying out a few toys till I found one I liked, because I’m really picky. We have handcuffs for every nowandthen. I have a jelly dildo that I like, and a few toys lying around because I haven’t gotten around to throwing them out. We tried cock rings, but he didn’t like them. I was insulted (not really, but…) and amused when I was called a regular at the store.
I don’t have many limits on what I’ll try, but the backdoor is closed for now, until I can figure out how to make it less uncomfortable (any suggestions, e-mail me. I don’t really wanna start a thread on it…).
hummm… kiliiboyfriend was a bit wierded out by them, maybe a bit jealous?, but since I rarely use them without him and he likes my reactions, he knows that I don’t like the toys better by any stretch of the imagination.
I don’t really know why, but for some reason, at my ripe old age, I’ve never tried a sex toy! Not that I have anything against them. In fact I’m incredibly curious as to whether they would enhance my pleasure even more than I now experience.
I intend to invest in one in the near future, though. My partner mentioned that we’ll go and buy something together, as he’ll have just as much fun using my new “toy” on me, as I will, being on the receiving end!
I wish my bashfulness could kick in before I hit the “submit” button, but I know this is just going to turn into a moi tell-all. wry grin
Toys:[ul]
[li] basic plastic vibrator[/li][li] large-ish jelly multi-speed vibrator[/li][li] egg-shaped multi-speed vibrator[/li][li] fingertip vibrator (I think the same one mentioned by Bippy)[/li][li] jelly contraption that applies pressure to a man’s testicles and stimulates a woman’s clitoris :eek:[/li][li] silicone dildo (with harness)[/li][li] silicone anal plug[/li][li] silicone p-spot anal plug [/li][li] playful stuff (blindfold, feathers)[/li][li] kinkier stuff (rope, electrical tape, handcuffs, nipple clamps, collar, leash…)[/ul][/li] Do you feel threatened by the toy?
I’m probably not your target for this question…though someone once accused me of buying a particular toy for that purpose. My current partner is not threatened by toys, in fact, he’d probably like me to bring them out more often!
Favorite types and or brands?
The only toys I use by myself are the egg and the fingertip vibe. Both are outrageous good fun. I prefer to buy my toys from Good Vibrations (www.goodvibes.com); I probably do them a kind of disservice by describing them as “woman-friendly,” but I just think they’re free of all the bad associations people (myself included) may have with sex toys, porno, etc.
What are your limits?
No idea, really. I don’t use any of the anal toys on myself, but I’m not opposed to them. I never thought I’d use a strap on, but I have.
Now, my addendum question: Where do you keep your toys?
I know someone who keeps hers in an old-fashioned hat box, and I’ve found one under a friend’s pillow. Mine are stashed stylishly in a large metal box (taller and wider than a briefcase); it’s nicely intimidating!
Well, the Pad of Evil® also doubles as a BDSM dungeon. We have…
[ul][li] a couple of dildos[/li][li] a medium-sized buttplug[/li][li] a vibrator[/li][li] leather arm & leg shackles (4)[/li][li] about a mile’s worth of rope[/li][li] a never-ending supply of duct tape (we buy rolls three at a time)[/li][li] a hood[/li][li] a ball gag[/li][li] about 10 different kinds of cock rings (I shit you not)[/li][li] a leather collar[/li][li] leather wrist cuffs (often worn in public)[/li][li] chains, padlocks[/li][li] and though they’re not really “toys,” a collection of leather gear (chaps, arm bands, etc.)[/li][li] again, not a “toy,” but a weight bench that can be put to excellent use in bondage scenes [/ul][/li]
All pretty run-of-the-mill, as far as we’re concerned. I want to get a harness before Pride next year.
Personally, I don’t like Vibrators. Makes things go numb for me after a while, and after that . . . it’s like trying to climb Everest in the middle of winter unless I stop to take a break. And with how numb everything gets from a vibrator, that can take 2-5 minutes. Kills zee mood.
So, I got a Mr. Dependable, hehe. Remember the toy Marla had in Fight Club? Yeah, but Blue.
My limits: Masks. I hate masks fiercely. They freak me out and make me horribly uncomfortable. My fiance has a Mexican Wrestler mask he got in Mexico one time, and he can’t even put it on in a non-sexual way around me. Blegh.
dragongirl, a cock ring restricts the EXIT flow of blood, so the penis gets REAL hard and as big as it can get. Some people need them to have a suitable erection, but they also help control ejaculation and (like for me) it just feels good (more surface area). So think bigger, harder, longer lasting. You can also use one around the balls for a different sensation and getting them out front and center to play with. Plus when orgasming the ejaculate builds up a bit of pressure trying to get past the ring, so a guy can have a feeling of huge spurts, but it comes out normally. Which leads to how I know this…
We have a few small vibrators (one plastic, one jelly), two cock rings and a few small anal toys. Wifecat doesn’t NEED the extra stimulus, but it sure helps - she takes awhile to orgasm (20 minutes minimum). She experiences two types of orgasms, inner and outer. Outer from oral sex or just a vibe, inner ones from a vibe and my penis or fingers inside. Depending on her mood we adjust play accordingly. The other plus about using toys for her is that she can have a few orgasms during one session, which is always cool.
We have bought other toys before, but we didn’t like them. It really is a personal choice thing- you have to find out what you like by trying. If you are considering backdoor action, first realize that you don’t HAVE to penetrate to have a little fun down there. Rub a finger with a little lube on it down there on the outside to see if you or your partner likes the sensation. IF you do, then you can try a little penetration - they sell tiny, thin little plugs and beads for beginners - but you don’t have to. If rubbing works, stick with a good thing (rubbing and oral/handwork produce HUGE orgasms for both of us).
And a person who is jealous or insecure of an inanimate object needs to gain some perspective on life.
Just wanted to chip in that my husband isn’t intimidated at all by them, and usually he’s the one who buys them, and the one who suggests we get them out. haha
I bought my now ex-wife a Hitachi Magic Wand (google it or go to the masturbation guru Betty Dodson’s site) while we were married and she/we loved it, but just for occasional use.
I loved using it on her and the variety and effortlessness it provided. No jealousy here.
