Your husband and I are brothers in …well, arms isn’t the right word…brothers in phalli?
We have what we like to call “The Bag of Tricks.”
Contents:
7" realistic vibrator
5" bullet shaped vibe (have to be careful, it doesn’t flare at the bottom and we don’t want any FOEs (foreign object extractions).
Handcuffs (both metal and fur with velcro snaps)
A couple of satin restraints
About 8’ of nylon rope
Blindfolds
paintbrushes
a couple of feathers
2 cock rings (one leather, one stainless steel)
Eros lube (expensive, but worth it)
We don’t use it all the time, but every now and then it is fun. Depends entirely on the mood.
I am curious about the men who have responded. Have any of the men who bought toys for their wives/girlfriends/lovers ever ended up with the toy being used on them?
As a gay man, toys are common in my relationship and are used on a regular basis. I am just curious how many men in this topic have used them personally.
My girlfriend never found a use for a cock ring herself. Though she appreciated when I wore one. Tens units can be used alone or with your partner, but passing a current between yourself and your partner can be dangerous if you are not very careful. (the current isn’t dangerous unless it goes through your heart, and even then it is only slightly dangerous if you are healthy).
And to correct my earlier message
the Japanese finger tip vibrator is the
FUKUOKU 9000
or the FUKUOKU Power Pack (which I have, and sometimes wear one on each hand as accessories to my Cyber-Goth look at the right sort of clubs)
(sorry Fucko 200 came from memory, they don’t have the name on them, only on the packaging which has long since been thrown out.)
The only toy that gets use is the Hataichi Magic wand, and that is only for her personal relaxations. Any other toys that have made it into the bed room have been tossed into drawers and forgotten due to general whining every time I suggest them. They are considered a waste of money now, and some of them were fucking expensive. Maybe a sculpture project or something can at least use them to some greater effect.
I usually play by myself. Time for just hubby and I is at a premium, and like Tomcat’s wife, I can take 20 minutes, easily, to orgasm. So my two favorite toys are
the shower head. It’s one of those hand-held, adjustable stream ones, and works wonders
Hitachi Magic Wand. Somewhat expensive (about $50, I think) and kinda loud, but I can not recommend this enough! Not to mention it can double as a back massager.
When hubby and I are together, we occaisonally use things like a blindfold, and arms/ankles straps.
I don’t know too many fellows who find a sex toy threatening.
:rolleyes:
That sounded as if I know TOO many fellows in THAT way! OOPS! I meant, from what I’ve heard and seen working in several porn stores, guys find them to be a turn on because they get to use them on their SO’s. Get her off and you’re guaranteed to get off, too, type of thing. Unless the girl needs a big, BIG dildo… guys don’t really have to worry. If a guy* is* threatened then he isn’t a good lover and needs to learn some more about female sexuality.
Toys aren’t a replacement (ok, well, sometimes they are… if the couple is apart or there isn’t a relationship and it’s safer than a rent-a-ho), they are a perk for both partners! Toys are fun, toys are sexy. My SO just got me one (soft rubber dildo vibe). Let the games begin!
Although I have had a “Butterfly” vibrator for quite some time, my SO and I have just started to get into other toys. We have started with a 5" vibrator and now my SO wants to get me a bigger one, which I have no problems with . We also like to use feathers, silk ties, and blinfolds. We have found that flowers feel great when run lightly over the body. We have tried daisies and roses.
If you worry about looking silly during sex, you’re never gonna get it on. Always remember the incredulous thought of every kid as soon as he or she learns about sex:
“He’s gonna stick his WHAT in my WHAT? That is so GROSS! Eeeew!”
or
“I’m supposed to stick my WHAT in her WHAT? No way, that’s ridiculous.”
Sometimes, as mature adults, we forget how fundamentally silly-looking the sex act is.
Well, we’ve had a couple of very standard toys for a number of years now (two dildos, one small one large), and one very slim anal penetrator that usually gets used on him, but sometimes on me.
However. . .in the past couple of years, my sex drive has declined, and it’s become more difficult to reach orgasm (I’ve reached that lovely stage of life known as menopause), so this week or next we’re going to invest in another toy or two, to kind of help things along. We’re going to buy a glove that looks like a weigh-lifters glove, but it has a vibrating finger tip on each finger; we’ll both have fun with it.
I don’t think that a satisfying sexual relationship is the most important part of marriage, but it’s pretty high on the list!
. We also like to use feathers, silk ties, and blinfolds. We have found that flowers feel great when run lightly over the body. We have tried daisies and roses.