The thread about dildo interdiction gave me pause. I was discussing various paraphilias and sexual paraphernalia
with a colleague in the context of public health and HIV prevention. I was somewhat taken aback to hear my colleague assert that most such phallic toys were either purchased and used by gay men, or purchased by hetero men to use on their partners, and that women actually tended to not employ them for their own gratification. This contradicted what I’d read in the literature, and my (non-scientific) observations drawn from patient care experience.(No, not that kind of experience! That would be too creepy).
So lady dopers, my questions: Have you used said phallic toys? If so, was it for your own pleasure, or to please another? If not, any particular reason?
I own phallicly shape vibrator, use it on myself, alone and with partners (frankly I’m better at it). However, said toy was purchased as a gift by a heterosexual male ex-BF. So, in a way I fit into BOTH your categories.
I was awarded one as a door drize at a Pleasure Party, a small vibrator, but I never used it on myself. I watched my husband make use of it one time, and I left it for him when I divorced him.
I have used toys. I have used a few to the point of breaking them. I use them for my own enjoyment, though if someone else admires the view while I am using them, I don’t mind. I only use toys that I have persoanlly bought or that I can wash with antibacterial soap and hot water because I tend to be weird about infection. I have about 15 or so “phallic” toys as I like variety in size, shape, color, speed etc
[sub]Sitting here counting all my toys made me wonder if I am strange…Damn I have a lot of toys, phallic and otherwise![/sub]
A female friend once asks me to obtain a vibrator for her, so I do this, and I send it to her place of work, by express delivery, and I leave the device switched on for the journey.
Sadly, the batteries expire before she receives this gift. Since this time, I never economise on battery supplies, and I always buy the best.
Yes, I’ve used toys, both phallic shaped and not. I use them for my pleasure, but don’t discount the pleasure it brings my lover to watch me use them (or let him use them on me).
I used to do the Pleasure Parties that Cyn mentioned and as such got a nice discount on the items I sold. I own 8-10 different toys. I’ve bought them all myself, the newest addition purchased last weekend.
Note: they do show up quite clearly in the x-ray machines at the airport
My husband took pleasure in buying me my first vibrator. It was your standard missile shape; not phallic. I guess it was fun to mess around with together a few times, but I never felt interested in using it alone. It didn’t do a lot for me. I don’t like the buzzing on or near my clit, for one thing. I don’t even know where it is now.
It occurs to me I should locate it before our housekeeper does.
Wow, I’m jealous!! I want more toys!! I only have one…his name is Jack…Jack Rabbit. I’ve only had him for 5 mos., either he wasn’t made very well…or I have wore him out!! I know that there are several versions of Jack…mine is by Swedish Erotica. The next one I get will definitely be the kind you plug in…batteries are expensive!! LOL
porcupine thanks for the link, that’ll help collect more numbers. Of course, women who don’t use them probably didn’t partake in that thread too much. But more data is always good. I wonder if I can get a paper out of this?
Ah, yes, Indeed. I meant it wasn’t actually shaped like a phallus, with a head. That is, a glans, or whatever Qadgop likes to call it when he’s fondling Grey’s Anatomy.
Now that’s funny. It would certainly explain why I didn’t get a lot out of the vibrator, wouldn’t it. But, er, yes, it’s the sex toy that has gone missing.
If my housekeeper found my clit, it’d remind me of something I saw in a Penthouse pictorial once. The lady and her maid…
Same here, but finding nickel cadmium batteries is currently nearly impossible - it seems there’s some new kind of rechargeable battery (which of course is incompatible with a nickel cadmium recharger. & I do learn, last time I decided to ignore the warning, I ended up with battery acid all over the wall.)
To answer the OP. Yes toys, but only one is phallicly shaped. The rest are very much not.
Three toys - all bought by my husband. All have been used solo and duet. They are brought out only once in a while, and mostly they live in the night stand drawer.
