I don’t know. I thought it would somehow relate to this thread. I guess not. 
Also it was, I take it, kind of a greasepit restaurant.
So they must have been really fat. 
How is calling someone fat anything but intentionally insulting? Unless he is a chubby chaser, he didn’t mean it to be flattering. I can’t think of one reason to call someone fat where the intent wasn’t intentionally insulting or flattering. Is calling someone fat ever a neutral statement? :dubious:
Dessert? Aw, hell no. You call my wife fat, me jolly boyo, and you’re going to be hauling pitchers of beer out here until my temper is completely cooled off. Good beer, too, none of that Budweiser horse piss.
I keep gauze on me to tuck into my cheeks for this very reason.
Scumpup, I’m cracking up. I’ll be dead drunk, saying, “one more mug, I think my feelings are getting unhurt now”.
If I write a list of unflattering things about you on this notepad next to my computer, are you insulted?
Depends if you hit the reply all button.
You are missing my point.
The notion is that the customer was never intended to see the “fat chicks” on the cheque. It was supposed to be an identifier only, to keep the cheques straight. Cheque A goes to the “fat chicks” cheque B goes to “that tattooed dude” or whatever (instead of the more sensible “Cheque A to table 1” or whatever). For some stupid reason, waitstaff left the description on the bil when they gave it to the customers.
Obviously, if the waitstaff fully intended the customers to see it, that would be insulting.
How do you know what the intent was?
Eh. I’m fat. Some of my friends are fat. Seeing ‘fat girls’ on the check would make me laugh rather than get upset.
I don’t. Perhaps the waitstaff, for some perverse reason of their own, wanted to insult these customers in this rather roundabout manner.
Seems rather more likely not, though.
Careful, some pedantic knucklehead might pit you for referring to a waiter as a “professional”.
Fat
Fatter
Fattest
That takes care of three tables.
I don’t see a big deal in writing it. Showing it to the girls was classless.
He should’ve just written “3 broads”.
I think they just wanted to show the world that they may be fat, but their skin is really, really thin.
I like when seemingly straight forward topics get completely ridiculous. I suppose there is more than one reasonable opinion to have on the matter, but so far the people who think this is egregious don’t seem to be making any of them. We had a good response very early on the first page.
Yeup. As for these:
I would bet all of the bourbon in Kentucky that I’ve been referred to internally by service staff as the black girl before. I’m often the only black lady around, and I’m not offended by being identified by my race or gender casually to a bunch of strangers who need to distinguish me physically from everyone else in the room. I don’t like being greeted as “Hey, black lady,” but I also don’t like being greeted as four-eyes. However, if I were identified on a ticket as “Lady in glasses,” whatever. Yes, the restaurant needs a better system; yes, purposely slipping them a receipt that says “fat girls” on it is rude; no, I don’t think the server was maliciously sending them a Hey Fatty note; yes, I think an apology and a comp would have been the easiest way to settle this for all parties involved, but here we are.
No doubt. But it is very hard to offend me. Anger? Annoyance? Sure. But not offense. I have been the victim of incompetence at a restaurant but never anything with malicious intent. So why make a big deal about it? As long as the manager knows and makes a nice gesture. That way the waiter doesn’t get into big trouble but if its a continuing problem he’ll be able to do something about it. Work is hard enough without others making problems.
I was wondering the same thing. I should pay closer attention.
No one was called fat. If he went up to the table and said ,“Hello Fatties!” he should have been fired. That is not what happened.
Perhaps I am immature, but this mental image is freaking hilarious to me.
Sure: when I don’t care enough about the person to be insulting or flattering, it’s straight up neutrally descriptive. If I were a waiter, I’m sure I wouldn’t give the person enough of a thought to even want to insult them, unless they were rude to me or something. It’s an obvious (probably the most obvious) physical characteristic of the person, and something easily used to discern them from another person or group.
Waiter almost certainly just made a mistake by forgetting to delete that from the check. Or maybe he didn’t even realize that gets printed in the first place, who knows? It’s unlikely he did it intentionally. There’s no big deal here. The manager should apologize, then chew out the waiter for being careless, and that should be the end of it.
The fact that they chose to make a big issue out of it and went to the news with it is beyond ridiculous to me, and the ‘fat girls’ make themselves not only worthy of mockery, but scorn, due to their attention-grabbing behavior. The fact that the news is even reporting on it is equally worthy of scorn, as far as I’m concerned.
The waiter’s an asshole and should be fired.
Do you mean “you can insult, upset or offend anyone in any way, because you made of them in the past.”?
Seriously, I am confused. Should there be any excuse for offending, insulting or upsetting people?