Well, you recovered from those shakes…
Congrats, and don’t listen to jerks (family or friends…or especially here!). No one knows what your situation feels like. Hope you get enough time with your kid!
No. I wouldn’t use my child’s money to manipulate his mother. What kind of asshole would do something like that?
Fortunately, we have been able to maintain a civil relationship with out having to resort to such tactics. (Despite her alcoholism.)
I can’t remember all the things they were telling me to do. One thing I do remember being told is that I should quit my job, and then get another one after the payments have been set. :rolleyes:
Never had to pay it.
Thank you! 
Someone like F-P?
If you’re going to back off what you said earlier, then that’s not my issue. I’m only going with what you’ve written here.
I was reacting to your statement indicating that you found it unpleasant to “have to go through his alcoholic mother”. And I suggested (among other things) that dealing with his alcoholic mother would probably have been easier if she couldn’t entirely rely on a court order. So now you’re turning around and insisting that you were able to maintain a civil relationship despite her alcoholism. It’s unclear then what your great relief is in no longer having to deal with her.
Whatever. It’s your story, I suppose you get to write it, and make yourself the hero. Enjoy.
My issue with her alcoholism is that she spent way too much time in the bars as opposed to spending it with her son.
Another issue I had with her is that she basically raised our kid on fast food. Because she couldn’t be bothered to come home and cook a proper meal for her son. She’d rather be at the bar drinking and then just grab some McDonald’s on the way home at 10 in the evening.
Fortunately, my son has a step dad that’s a pretty good guy. He doesn’t cook but they do go to his mothers house about twice a week for a home cooked meal.
ETA: Not a hero. Just doing what I’m supposed to be doing.
How does any of that change now that you’ve made your last CS payment?
The OP is sanctimonious…
Paying the mother more does not necessarily equal supporting your child more. You’ve already stated the mother is an alcoholic. How do you know your “child support” money didn’t buy her a full liquor cabinet? Why would you want to give her more money than you had to if you had every intention of supporting your child anyway? Supposed you used those tricks or whatever they were, got your support lowered and got 100 dollars less a month garnished from your paycheck for those 15 years. You could have started a college fund, a car fund and/or paid for a number of incidentals expenses. You would have a say in how the money was spent and you think that’s bad?!
It doesn’t. But now I don’t have to deal with her anymore. And if my son doesn’t like the living arrangements over there. He has the freedom to live with me now. Or, get a place of his own.
There’s no way to get around it. You have to give her cash directly. She’s gotta pay rent you know.
Jesus, chill out. You said:
I though you meant you knew of some ways to reduce CS payments.
Shut up.
You’ve done the right thing … the day will come when your son understands this … [smile] … think of it as compound interest … just your payoff is in respect.
Tip of the hat to you.
All that said (and forgive me if this is a subject that was covered here before I showed up), I feel like it’s fair to ask that, if your ex is an alcoholic, why was she awarded custody?
Wow, time just zooms along, doesn’t it. Congrats on seeing the kid through childhood and into the next phase of his life. Hope he does you proud
That’s the way a bill becomes a law.
I admit to not being familiar with that reference.
I had no idea Grrr! is/was Shakes.
Sorry, I was being sarcastic, “that’s how it is done” was my point.
As it turns out, I am, indeed, familiar with the Schoolhouse Rock reference, but I did not make the connection.