If I had a dime for every woman who got involved with a man like that because she thought she could change him…
He doesn’t have to be married to her to be out driving to a social event when the cops pull 'em over and find the coke in the car, nor does he have to be married to her to meet her dealer’s collections department up close and personal.
I’m going to be blunt with you: Get the fuck out of there.
As Norman Osborn widely told his son Harry in the 2002 Spider-Man film regarding his relationship with Mary Jane: “Do what you need to with her, and then broom her fast.” It seems like this girlfriend of yours is a successful, upper-middle class woman and adept saleswoman. Good for her.
However, she’s also on a downward spiral. Cocaine does that to people. This bitch will tell you she loves you one minute and be sincere about it, and then sneak off with your wallet in the next to fuel her habit. As the aforementioned Osborn also told Harry about his late wife: “Your mother was beautiful. They’re all beautiful—until they’re snarling after your trust fund like a pack of ravening wolves.”
Your bitch sounds to me like a classic femme fatal, a hard-charging narcissist with a penchant for finer things in life that regular, working-class folks in America could only dream of (she lives in Toronto yes, but that’s besides the point, she still has more dough than most people).
Dump this broad, set her up in a therapy program for drug addicts, and move on your merry way. You don’t need this unrepentant, drug-addled, knee-jerk Trotskyite.
Also, see this excellent video on this subject for more, important information.
This may seem harsh, but sometimes bluntness is a virtuous necessity.
WTF is your problem?
Jeez!
For the OP, if she’s a nine in her 20s and you are in your 40s, how many nines did you date in your 20s and 30s? How many nines have you dated who aren’t trying to sell you something?
If either of those is more than several, you’re good to go, and just decide if the coke is a problem. If it’s not, then maybe wait to see what kind of relationship you really are in? .
Um. . . O.K.? :dubious: (Backs slowly away.)
As for the OP, cocaine use would be a deal breaker for me, but obviously that’s not the case for everyone. I would tread carefully here anyway, due to the other red flags (age difference, mixing personal life with business transactions, etc.).
Take out all the misogynistic slurs and MRA-esque attitude, and I kinda agree with you.
But… dude, what the hell?
ETA: Nevermind. Saw the “join date.” My question was asked and answered.
You’re dating a coke-head and you laugh at this? Well, a fool and his money are soon parted, I guess.
To Grrr! and chaikia—what’s with the knee-jerk reactions, guy? Calatin knows I have a point and agrees, but he seems to have been taken aback by my strong language.
Look, in my post, I warned up front I’d be blunt with this well-meaning, if naive, man. I don’t consider myself a men’s rights activist of any sort. I do know myself to be a guy who’s watched his fair share of real-life documentaries about cocaine addicts, how they behave, and the frequency with which they eventually start to take other people’s money to help fuel their own habit.
Chimera seems to know that I’ve got a point, and that this man is setting himself up for a nasty breakup—not just with his girlfriend, but with some of the money from his own pocketbook to, given this woman’s antics.
It’s possible to be casual user or cocaine and a full-blown addict. I’d be willing to guess more are casual users than addicts.
Casual users?
ROTFLMFAO!
But, of course! Documentaries, as opposed to real-life experience, teach you all you need to know!
The OP is thinking with his dick, but you don’t think at all. You just throw some misogynist shit on the wall and figure we’ll buy it. Stay in college. You have MUCH to learn.
He took the red pill.
Your “thinking with his dick” line suggests that the sexist here isn’t me, but the person staring you in the mirror.
Also, you are either too blind or hardheaded to read correctly. In my post, I clearly stated “real-life documentaries.” They weren’t some fiction thriller films, they involved real life people where the filmmakers and researchers would interview the family members of drug addicts, as well as the recovering drug addict himself occasionally, and they would all tell their story. And it almost always ended how I described it: the user would start off slow, then overspend his own money on their habit, and get so far gone and addicted to the point where they would steal money from their own relatives to pay for thehir habit, at times violently. A really good documentary show was Intervention, for instance.
In other words, they did deal with “real-life experience”. These were real people, real addicts and how they affected their families and loved ones’ lives.
To Nawth Chucka: I don’t know what a “red pill” is. I’ve never taken one, nor am I on one now.
When the cornfield takes you, go peacefully and w/ dignity, as you may never return.
Seriously? I’ve known a bunch over the years. Only one turned out to have a major problem. All kept professional jobs and kept their lives in order.
Suppose instead of cocaine the drug causing the behavior was alcohol. Would there still be this virtually unanimous negative reaction?
Yet a strong argument can be made that alcohol is just as harmful or more harmful than cocaine:
People seem incredibly risk-adverse. Life is [can be] an adventure.
Yup, I’m sure they were real people. However, the TV show “Intervention” isn’t a documentary. It’s “reality” TV. It is a product designed to entertain, not educate. Even if it isn’t scripted, it is heavily edited to present the story in a certain way, facts be damned.
Also, for the record, I used to sell cocaine. I know multiple real-life people who use it on a casual basis. I’d even say that the majority of the people who use cocaine do so socially, usually on a “it’s the weekend” basis. Sure, some jump off the slippery slope, but it’s actually far more rare than I would have guessed before I got into the business.
Here’s the catch, casual cocaine users** don’t end up on TV.** They live nice, quiet normal lives and unless you are in the scene, you won’t know who they are. Because they are ** boring.** Addicts stealing shit to pay for drugs is a much more interesting story.
As for our OP, well I suspect he’s being taken on a ride. On the other hand, I was taken for a ride in a similar fashion once, and actually I have very few regrets. Sure I lost a bunch of money, but the experience was mostly worth it.
Please note that in a fit of overreaction, CosmicManiac has pitted me for my above post. 
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=20099852&posted=1#post20099852