I got a call this afternoon from a girl I know (a friend of my sister’s) and she asked me to go to a movie with her this weekend. This is weird for a few reasons: 1. I didn’t know she liked me and 2. She is a close, personal friend of my sister. I’m kinda afraid that whatever happens will get back to my sister. It’s not that I don’t have confidence that this girl will be discreet, it’s that they’re friends and…well…they’re friends.
Am I just being nervous for no reason, or should I be worried?
(BTW, I am 16 and she is 19, if that helps you give better advice)
Thanks in advance.
Are you both over the age of majority? Go for it. tell your sister beforehand if you feel you should but the fact that your sister and this woman are friends should in no way prevent you from enjoying her company.
Are you sure that this is a “date” as opposed to maybe a “get to know her friend’s sibling better” thing?
I just got an message from my sister (she goes to college across town) inquiring about the date, so she obviously knows. I’m not sure if it’s a date or what, but that’s what my sister called it, so I suppose so…
It doesn’t matter which girl you date, she’ll “confide” in at least three other girls, who will then “confide” in their best friends and so on and so on until every girl in town knows you prematurely ejaculate. You poor bastard, secrets are a girl’s currency. So for the love of Jesus don’t make them rich, because they love to spend. By the way, she probably doesn’t really like you, she just needs you. See, women define themselves by whether or not they have a boyfriend - you think I’m lying, but it’s true. This is why they make such a big fuss out of being single, they titter about the freedom of not having the toilet seat up, and more time to spend with their friends, but they’re crying inside. A woman without a boyfriend is like a fish without a pond, not a fucking bicycle, that’s how they see it. Pity is lavished upon any “barren” boyfriendless ones, the only way for a girl to gain respect is to have a “good catch”. Every action and nuance of yours will be analysed for hours by your girl and her stupid friends. Every motion you make will be studied and discussed until they’re satisfied they know what you were thinking. You have no clue yet, but their secret sorority of power will leave you dead in the water. Do one ‘bad thing’ to one girl, and every other girl will know about it within days, if not hours. And if it’s something you wouldn’t want anyone besides an SO to find out, forget it, they know. They all know. You can’t trust women, I don’t know why anyone bothers to get married, what a stupid decision.
Summarized, women share a hive mind akin to the Borg. Either that or they’ve got dirt on Ashcroft and have unparalleled access to domestic surveillance.
Thanks j_cat, you’re a source of perpetual wisdom and pants-shittingly alarming news that we already know deep down inside but refuse to believe because it would validate our deepest fears that we are all just pawns in the girls’ game.
IS HE BITTER OR WHAT?
Why would you care what your sister thinks? Go have a nice time with the friend, after all, its not like you’re getting married…
Of course, maybe your sister sent the friend to get some info on ya 
Go, have fun, don’t worry. It’s gonna be fine.
Hmmm…a 19 year old woman and a 16 year old guy? Sure, it’s possible, but usually at that age, it’s the other way around. Oh well…have fun!
I’m just going to hope that j_kat’s diatribe was tongue-in-cheek. That can’t have been serious… Can it?
And, re: the OP - take it easy, Quack, it’s one date. Hopefully you’ll have fun, but if not, it ain’t the end of the world.
lno, I like your analysis
Have fun on your date. Don’t forget to stare at her, and lick your lips as much as possible. Chicks love that.
Quack - one of my best friends dated my brother in high school. She didn’t share details of their dates with me- it would have been too icky for either of us to talk about. Where it gets weird is if you do get along for a while and then stop seeing each other and then whichever one got dumped will pressure your sister to find out the gory details of why.
…and by “stare at her”…Giraffe means “stare at her jugs…especially while she’s talking to you”
It’s the best way to demonstrate that you find her bootylicious.
I suppose I’m the only one who read “Thanks j_cat, you’re a source of perpetual wisdom and pants” as a distinct sentence.
Gee Quack, after reading a few of the previous posts, I sure hope you’re familiar with the concept of irony…
BTW, information can flow both ways:
Why not ask your sisted what this person is like, what she enjoys, what ticks her off, etc…
But you probably already thought of that…
Only if she’s had some sort of bizarre rectal-mammary inversion surgery.
You lucky dog! When I was 16, 19 year olds were were the tantalizing, often-talked-about-but-little-undestood older women. (Now, as a 27 year old, they are just not what I want to date. But I digress…) Just be calm, and don’t act all worked up. And don’t try using Chris Kline’s best line from American Beauty…
or American Pie… for that matter (c’mon - Suvari was in both of them!)