My younger sister is 17 years old, and I recently found out that she’s been dating a 25 year old guy for a few weeks. She met this man over the internet on World of Warcraft. He lives a few states away, so luckily I don’t have to worry about her being sexually active with him. However, I did catch her masturbating in front of her computer one night and I could have sworn I heard a male voice.
Supposedly he is a cop and soon to be heading off to the military where he will only have contact with the outside world 5 to 10 minutes a day. Her reasoning to be with him is that she’s never met someone with more in common with her than this man. I would normally take that at face value and accept it as truth. However, my sister is notorious for her boyfriends. There have been at least five that I know of within the last two years and she often doesn’t tell anyone when she gets together with someone or when she breaks up with them.
The previous boyfriend she had lived several states away yet she paid for him to come to our house twice, claiming he was her soul mate. She already had plans for their future together. At least this one was her age. Weeks after breaking up with him she was with yet another boy.
My sister was diagnosed several years back with chronic depression, to the point that she had been planning her own suicide. I don’t want to hurt her more than I already have by telling her I disapprove of her decision but at the same time I don’t want to see her hurt by this man. She’s already dated a 19 year old when she was 15 that turned out to be using her. He would often call her and “persuade” her to masturbate on speaker for him. She only told me about this a year later, confessing that it was creepy but she thought to much of him at the time to do anything about it. I don’t want her to end up in the same situation with this man.
She’s claimed that she plans on talking to my parents but hasn’t found the right time as of yet. It’s been several weeks and when I told her that if she hadn’t talked to them within two weeks then I would she said that was too soon.
Am I wrong to want to inform my parents? Am I being too harsh by telling her that the relationship is creepy and could easily go wrong? As her elder sister, does it fall within my right to be concerned about her or should I f*** off like she told me to?
I am at a loss as to what to do.