Whattyou talkin’ about Willis! His OP is a statement of prejudgement, CCL! His statement is a qualifier based on BS! If I lived like that, why I’d think you were a little lady hermit with 35 cats who collected and saved her excrement in Pickle buckets and horded newspapers and periodicals. If I thought like the Monkey, I would eliminate, oh I dunno, maybe 50-60% of possible new and old friends based on something superficial, thereby loosing the heart and mind underneath (what really counts!). I know all of my horizons would be narrower if not for that half. I would be less of a person.
Little advice Monkey, don’t eliminate any possibilities or opportunities in life.
Expansion is better than contraction.
Apparently, roses really smell like Poo-Pooo oo oo!
I can’t understand why he wouldn’t want to be around drug users! The sheer pleasantness he’s experienced in this thread would more than convince me! “Like…open your mind, man!” What a powerful, compelling argument.
Ah, so being a non-user automatically makes one uptight and judgmental of those who do use. :rolleyes: Looks like you’re taking some of your resentment at being judged and throwing it, unjustifiably, at the OP.
Spending my time now (a year and counting) with a non-smoker, non-druggy, social drinker (with a ton of self-control).
Guess which relationship is the healthiest? Guess which guy is the strongest? Guess which guy is the most fun? Guess which guy is the most interesting? Guess which guy is the most successful, on every level?
GUESS HOW ANGRY I AM THAT I SPENT 10 1/2 YEARS OF MY LIFE WITH SUCH WEAK, DEPENDENT LOSERS?!?!
(gee, that does sound a little bitter doesn’t it? Don’t get me wrong- I take total responsibility for the choices I made, I just wish I’d smartened up sooner …).
To me, drinking and drugs are a reflection of one’s value system. If you and your S/O don’t have the same value system, you’ll have a hard time being truly happy.
I just wanted to distance myself from the pro-drinking/drug users in this thread… I drink (probably too much) and i have been known to burn one (and worse…) That being said, I absolutely do not agree with Indygirrl and fetus’ blatant generalizations that all “us” druggies feel the same way. I’ll think and speak for myself thankyouverydamnmuch. :rolleyes:
Soapbox Monkey, you stick to your guns! If it bothers you that much, then you are not going to be happy with someone who drinks or uses drugs, just as I would be uncomfortable with someone who is an absolute tee-totaller. You have to find someone who is compatible or NEITHER of you will be happy.
This “Czar” thinks you’ve posted just about enough on this subject. Your attitude, language and posting of threads advocating illegal drug use will not be tolerated here.
Anybody read my post on the last page? All I’m sayin’ is, all your high standards and good intentions go flying right out the window when you fall in love with The Wrong Person.
Another (former, and sorry to say heavy) drug user wading in to say that you should do what feels right to you.
You should only have relationships with people that you feel comfortable around so if party heads and drug users aren’t your bag find another crowd. You must have some other clubs or societies on campus? Maybe take up rock climbing or join the dangerous sports society? Not into sporty stuff? Try the chess society maybe? Into computers? They have a LAN club on my girlfriend’s campus where they join up for gaming nights…
There is a lot of stuff out there for people who don’t like getting intoxicated if you look around a bit. Saying that I have found it quite easy to mingle at clubs with people who are tee-total but from a sober perspective (I have been clean for two years) I find drunk people highly irritating but strangely people under the influence of drugs tend to be much more coherent IMHO. I would say that you should not necessarily buy into the idea that all drug users are bad and are trying to push their agenda (as certain posters here appear to be doing) and just keep an open mind and take people on an individual basis. If my 100% straight girlfriend hadn’t we would not have been together…
Just posting in answer to this question, and doing my best to avoid the wreckage littering the rest of this thread, I’d say, yeah, you’re doing yourself a disservice. I know a lot of people who do a lot of drugs. I know a lot of people who don’t do any drugs. Can’t say as I’ve noticed a lot of distinction between the two groups. They both seem to have an equal share of really cool, intelligent, interesting people. And they both have an equal share of intolerant, manipulative, dishonest bastards. So, in my experience, by refusing to date girls who use (as distinct from “abuse”) drugs, you’re very likely missing out on some great relationships because of something that is, really, very trivial.
FWIW, IMHO, YMMV, ASAP, QED, FUBAR, QWERTY, and any other applicable acronyms.
First of all, sorry about presuming you were a woman earlier. Stupid assumption on my part to make. Sorry.
Second of all, I take back my previous advice. After perusing your prior threads, I can say with all certainty that YOU NEED TO GET LAID! BAD!!! DO NOT RESTRICT YOUR DATING POOL IN ANY WAY AT THIS POINT IN YOUR LIFE !!!
You are 19. You have puh-lenty of time to find Ms. Right. I’m willing to bet that once you find Ms. Right, you’d like to have the kinks worked out of your sexual style. So date the druggies and drinkers and smokers who have been around the block who can teach you what the hell to do! Go to the hedonistic parties just to get laid!
Soapbox Monkey, I think your feelings about this matter are perfectly justified. Regardless of what other people think, you are the one who has to live with or spend time with your SO. If you don’t want to spend time with someone who is doing something that you don’t approve of, and have that strong of an opinion against, then the relationship is doomed from the beginning. Why make yourself AND that person miserable?
Um… duh… I think her classes in becoming an RN make he rather a “cite” on her word! Oh, sorry, didn’t mean to talk over your head… that stands for Registered Nurse… :rolleyes:
Can YOU dispute what she said? Got anything ELSE to add, Bucko???
