When I married your wonderful son three years ago and I chose not to take your last name, I innocently assumed it wouldn’t be a big deal. Since keeping your “maiden” name is now fairly common and we all seemed to be reasonable people, I assumed that you would accept that.
Yet for three years you have persisted in calling me Mrs. Husband’s last name .
I have explained to you (in groups and individually) on numerous occasions that I kept my own name and that I prefer to not be addressed as Mrs. Husband’s last name , either in person or in letters. Yet, despite my continued efforts to get you to call me by my correct name, you continue to address me as Mrs. Husband’s last name .
When I send you emails or letters that have my correct first and last names on it, you continue to call me Mrs. Husband’s last name . When I sign cards and letters with both of our first and last names in order to provide a further reminder that our last names are different and that neither of us are a Mrs. Anything, you continue to address me as Mrs. Husband’s last name . When I politely remind you in person that I am not Mrs. Husband’s last name, that I have my own first and last name and want to be addressed as such, you continue to call me Mrs. Husband’s last name .
I understand that your family is “old-fashioned” (read: closed-minded bible thumpers) and that women are expected to follow tradition and defer to their husbands. I understand that I am not what you wanted in a daughter-in-law, that you do not accept my opinions and beliefs, and that begrudging tolerance is all I can hope for from you.
However, despite your obstinate refusal to comprehend my insistence that my name is my name, and your obvious lack of respect in calling me something I am not, I will continue to demand to be addressed by my own name. Is that too much to ask?
Since this is the pit:
You can take your “traditional values” and stuff them up your tight, fundie asses. Jesus-felching, Bible-humping, passive-aggressive fuck heads.