You are WAY too young to be that jaded.
It’s NEVER too young to be jaded. It is a sign of superior intelligence, and a correct understanding of how the world really works.
It’s not a fun or funny story, so I’ll leave it there.
What he said.
“Being jaded” = “Refusing to live in denial any longer.”
I beg to differ. To be jaded is a sign of superior intelligence? And of how the world really works? How so? Educate me.
Dictionary.com defines “jaded” as:
"1. dulled or satiated by overindulgence.
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worn out or wearied as by overwork or overuse.
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dissipated."
…by the age of 24? Please elaborate on how “jaded” is a sign of “superior intelligence” and “correct understanding of how the world really works”.
To get back to Reply, hope is far from gone.
It’s not about superior understanding, but rather accepting reality. I’ll point out that further down, the dictionary also says:
-Worn out; wearied.
-Cynically or pretentiously callous.
-Exhausted.
In my own case, Teresa agreed. Tammy agreed. Sun agreed. Jennifer agreed. Nisa agreed. Serina agreed. Heidi agreed. Jackie agreed. Adrienne agreed. Natalie agreed. Ari agreed. Shelby agreed. Erica agreed. Darcy agreed. Kassie agreed. Claire agreed. Karianne agreed. Elizabeth agreed. And eventually, I agreed. I didn’t stand a chance.
Reply, I still say you are too young to be jaded. I wish you all the luck. Don’t give up.
Whatever 
We’ll just agree to disagree. I really don’t want to turn this into another thread about me. I’ll say no more.
I have joined a local writer’s group (I’m trying to get back into writing) which meets several times a month. If nothing else this gets me out of the house for reasons other than grocery shopping, as well as allows me to brush up on my social skills.
Wow a lot of nihilism going on in this thread. Let me be the first to say I do notaccept that I am going to be single forever. I’m dating someone right now, and its kind of touch-and-go at the moment, but if it doesn’t work out, I’ll move on with my life.
One thing that is fun about serial dating is that even if relationships don’t work out, in (my) case, each relationship is progressively better and better.
Personally, I think some posters who haven’t been out on a date in a long time, feel awkward around the opposite sex/etc should just give it a shot some time for the hell of it. I think the fear of rejection really can take a life of its own, but once you can get past that, a lot of the other stuff is a lot easier/acheivable than you originally thought. If anything, at that point in your life you have nothing to lose by trying!
At 42 I was still single and had never even dated a girl for a period beyond a few months. I was accepting that apparently a relationship was not for me. Then I met my special one, and we have been together for almost 10 years now.
I never really resigned myself to the fact that I would be single forever, but I was beginning to think I was going to be in one dead end relationship after another. I’d had 6 serious boyfriends and lots of other dates, before I started dating my husband when I was 30.
We got married when I was 32, and he was 34. He on the other hand had only had one girlfriend, in H.S. and for awhile after, and hadn’t been on a date for over 12 years when we met. He did think he would be single forever.
11+ years later…still married, still happy, and have one son.
I’m pretty happy to be single. I believe being in a good marriage would be nifty as well, but I’ve lived in enough households with married couples that I understand there are very definite drawbacks to having a spouse that go along with the advantages, just as staying single has advantages and drawbacks.
Such being the case, I consider it a wash, and am content to not change anything for the foreseeable future. I don’t actively look for a woman in my life, but if one were to enter, assign herself the position of significant other, and was adamant about not taking no for an answer, I would probably go with it.
I consider that a longshot though, so I am safe, happy, and remarkably stress free. Bit lonesome though… Always a tradeoff.
Oh, and i never ‘resigned’ myself to being single, as its not something i think we have to resign ourselves too.
I am alome and will continue to be alone. I have no friends or money and no contact with people outside of work. Its been this way since I left school. I have accepted it and feel better not hoping for something that will never happen.
It is not like that. It will happen. You don’t find love- it finds you. And money has nothing to do with it.
Translation: I’m wallowing in self-pity, I’ve given up on my own life, and I’m deluded enough to think that I’m smart for doing that.
Rascal’s Mom, you’re far kinder than I am. To quote Captain Kirk, “I’m laughing at the superior intellect.”
But I can relate. I was that jaded at that age. That didn’t make me some sort of genius. It made me a deluded dumbass.
Ignorance fought.
Thanks for my first smile of the day.
Not a fair translation at all. Not even close. Your ‘translation’ would only be even approximately accurate if it were the case that
‘being single’ = ‘a bad thing’, and
‘no longer pursuing a relationship’ = ‘giving up on my life’.
Neither of these equations has any merit, and both are just a culturally supported prejudice. They may correspond to how you, tdn, choose to see life, and you are of course perfectly entitled to your view. But your limitations and received prejudices do not have to be mine or Reply’s. Is it so hard to accept that other people might not think and feel the same way you do, and that this is perfectly okay?
I choose to embrace life and to see as much that is positive, fulfilling, worthwhile and fun in any given situation. Being single or being in a relationship are both great in different ways, as I know from experience. Neither status can be automatically labelled ‘good’ or ‘bad’. As a corollary, ‘pursuing’ or ‘not pursuing’ a relationship are both good options, and neither corresponds to ‘giving up on life’.
As far as I can be sure of anything, I know I’ll always be single. I have a great life, I’m still the luckiest person I know, I have wonderful and delightful female friends who know that I cherish them and love them, and I so many great adventures lined up for this year I can’t wait - it’s like being a kid on christmas eve! No-one who actually knows me, not even my worst enemy (if I had such a thing), could possibly accuse me of ‘giving up on life’.
I was replying more to Reply and Bluffcityguy than to you, but you make a fair point. If you are perfectly happy without dating, then more power to you. Hey, you’ll save a ton of money.
But re-read Reply and Bluffcityguy’s posts again. They don’t imply bitterness, they SCREAM it.
If you’re asking me to accept that teenage boys don’t crave sex and social acceptance, well, I’m not buying it. Been there, done that, invented the t-shirt.