If we had a high school graduation song, I don’t remember it. I’m not even sure what that means. A song that was played during the graduation ceremony?
I recently ran across this spectacular rendition sung by Morgan James.
Yes, Student Council came up with five options, the whole class voted, and then after the ceremony while everyone shuffled off the stage they played that song, along with a slide reel of pictures taken over the years.
Can someone explain what “which one is which” means in the student/teacher poll? Which one is which gender? It’s not clear.
Yes, that is what I assumed - does it matter if the teacher is male or female.
I think that’s exactly what the poll OP was trying to get at - deliberately using Sam and Alex, two gender-ambiguous names, so we can’t tell. In other words, “Does your opinion change if it’s a male teacher and female student vs. female teacher and male student?”
The attitude of some - perhaps even many - people towards such relationships is that they want the teacher hung up from a lamppost if it’s a man, but if the teacher was female, they think, “Wow, lucky guy (the student!)”
Possibly. I graduated in 1985. As far as I can remember the only song was played by the school band. Pomp and Circumstance. I was in the band and had to play it for three years and sit through it once.
Now they have the ceremony indoors at a basketball stadium. I’m sure it’s all recorded music now.
I think both are gross. I don’t think I make much distinction. My husband’s mother is ten years older than his father, which - fine - but they went to his junior prom together, which - not fine. I believe he said they started “dating” when he was 13.
My FIL is deeply fucked up because of it. Possibly beyond help.
The thing about it is when I first met my husband’s mother, who is by all accounts a nice lady, she painted this picture of herself as being the ongoing victim of his terrible parents, who disowned him for getting married to her, and said terrible things to her, etc. And I was terrified to meet the grandparents. I didn’t find out until much later about the way the relationship started, and while I can point to several bad things my FIL’s parents did, I can’t imagine being welcoming to an adult woman dating my teenage son.
They were married for 17 years before flaming out spectacularly.
On the age-differentiated teacher-student dating, I did admit to some difference. Not because I think there absolutely should be a difference, but I know I’d react somewhat differently. Yeah, there’s probably a tiny bit of the 80s me with “teacher so hot” going on (which was an is still a trope for teenage boys) but because I’m also not going to pretend that there isn’t still a substantial sexual power differential, especially with that much of an age gap.
Still absolutely disgusted with both possible sets of scenario, and would hope for equal legal treatment (depending upon state laws), but my personal feelings are going to be at least more strongly disapproving of an older male on an young female student even if entirely consensual per the post.
I see your point, and also IMHO - it does matter which one is doing the seducing. Mind you it is still wrong and a crime no matter which, but I would be inclined to be somewhat more merciful in sentencing if i found the minor had done the seducing of the adult. Still wrong, still a crime.
Yeah, it’s a bit hard not trying to fight the hypothetical of that particular poll. What may be worse in some ways is that if I take it as a given (mutual love, consensual, the whole thing) and I dropped the age difference (to say 24 and 17) I bet it would be considered more of the “fun but forbidden romance” that I see people reading (both genders, although often different formats).
Although some/most of such fiction that isn’t trying to be transgressive works under the spoken (or un) that the adult member of the couple promises to wait until graduation.
I do wonder also about the emotional impact if we were talking about nearly the same example - a 40 year old University Professor and a 17 or 18 year old University student. As a university student (even if underage) the power dynamic is somewhat different when it’s not mandatory schooling, and of course, at 18 a US Citizen is considered ‘adult’ - so generally no ‘legal’ issues, even if the age difference is nearly identical.
Feelings-wise, there’s some conflict still for me (in the modified circumstances I just mentioned), just because even if completely consensual, I can’t honestly imagine that the relationship would be healthy long-term, if for no other reason that the vast gulfs of life experience mandated by such a gap. It could work, and there have been happy, healthy marriages in the past and present with such gaps, but I’d tend to expect them to be the exception, not the rule or even the average.
Still, we’ve had at least one charged (and eventually closed due to excessive personal attacks IMHO) thread with many commonalities where I expressed my opinions on even consensual underaged sex:
Which doesn’t (again) have any direct result on the poll in question directly, but does somewhat inform it for me at least. I also idly wonder if the results would be similar if there had been a second, or paired poll where the relationship was same-sex.
Yeah, a 12 year old boy seduced his 41 year old English teacher. Have mercy. 
Seriously?
Version 1 would take about 20 minutes to dry your hands if you have that kind of patience.
Version 2 will rip your nails off if you’re not careful.
mmm
I may have seen those online before, but never in the wild.
I’ve seen them in the wild. Always wonder if they also can be used as a paper shredder
I’ve never seen version 2. And if I did see it, I wouldn’t automatically assume it had a different air flow – in fact, I’d probably have to look at it twice to figure out what it was.
Do you put your hands down into it from the top? Do they have more than one of them placed at different heights? If not, what are children, people in wheelchairs, and unusually short adults supposed to do? – or are the tall people supposed to bend over?
They are all over the place in Vegas. Hands go down the top. They are placed at a height that 90% of the users would have no problem with them. Waist-high for a normal adult. If you are a child, in a wheelchair or Migelito Loveless, you use paper towels, which are always there as an option.
They are very efficient. The air comes out as a “blade” and squeegees the water off your hands as they dry.
I don’t understand the drive to erase buildings, or even images of said buildings, where something tragic happened. Erasing the WTC Towers from films is a big one. They existed. Erasing them is more disrespectful to the people who perished there than leaving them, or their images, as reminders, IMO.
I’ve seen (and used) the Dyson-style blade hand dryers in public restrooms many times.
There’s also the kind where the air comes out the bottom similar to Version 1, except it’s directed through a smaller nozzel at much higher pressure, more like Version 2.
In my recent experience the Airblade style dryers are much more common than the old fashioned kind. I’m surprised that anyone hasn’t seen them. They work much better than the old ones, but it takes some care to not accidentally touch your hands to the sides of the narrow opening. It grosses me out when that happens, and is the main reason I might choose to use a paper towel instead.
This is my concern as well, but I tell myself I can be reasonably sure the people sticking their hands in there just washed them. Operative word: “reasonably.”