I guess I didn’t think a whole lot about it, or at least didn’t think pragmatically. Not that pragmatism is best or most important… but if I had thought deeply about what my future might look like, or if I were more practical about reality, I might not have married that particular person. I was rebellious and I figured it would work out. I didn’t know how to think about the future and to make decisions about what would be good for me and what might hurt me. I certainly didn’t think anything would fail.
After having been divorced, I married someone who is more like me, and we are so happy together, it is wonderful. But we did have a prenup because of my son.
Love is great and everything but what I didn’t appreciate the first time is that becoming impoverished because of your spouse’s poor decisions and dependency is not a good idea in the long term.
Now I have deep love and understanding, and a responsible husband.