I like Miss Manners’ suggestion: Enamorata.
I once floored a woman I was dating when someone when ran into asked “Is this your girlfriend?” and I introduced her with “Actually, this is my favorite person on the entire planet.”
Hah! I missed that. No, “wife”. Hah! I so never wanna go through a divorce ever again. And the best way to make sure that happens?
Have the T-shirt.
May I use that? (I will anyway, so play along). It so works and is true.
Ladies and Gentlemen, I introduce Ms Debbie Downer. . .
(Standard drunk apology(
What terms should someone use to distinguish between “divorced, not in a relationship” and “divorced with a new significant other”?
If someone who has divorced and remarried calls themselves “married”, are they misleading you?
Also, on Match.com the category for those not previously married (i.e., not divorced, separated, widow[ed/er]) is “Never Married” - perhaps to remove all doubt.
Yeah, I’ve had a tough day.
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Wanna go out sometime? Maybe get some sushi?
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You would absolutely love Jennifer. She is crazy about that band too.
Me too, and that was a drunk post. We cool?
You (probably) ain’t got nothin’ on Kevin Spacey, and *he’s *never been married. 
I used to be married, now I’m not and not in any kind of relationship either, so I’m single.
Continuing to refer to yourself as “Divorced” years after the marriage is gone is to me just hanging onto the past.
Either answer carries different sort of baggage to different people, who cares? I’m single dammit.
How about “This is my reason for living”?
I guess if you had children from a former marriage “divorced” makes more sense than “single”.
I didn’t know that Kevin Spacey was gay?
“Women often think I’m gay and try to convert me. I let them.” --Kevin Spacey
I thought Morgan Freeman said that? 
That is lovely.
Oh wow, forgot that I commented in this thread!
It just depends I guess. If you did indeed cover up your previous marriage by saying single over divorced I would want to know what’s up. But the word doesn’t have any inherent negative reaction from me
You could just be unmarried. Even sexy people wait for a while.
Not at all. But I’m talking as the person in the bar or whatever who hears you say yes I’m single. If you’re divorced and then remarried then you’re just married to me.
Really all I am saying is context. It doesn’t matter, but it’d be something that’d be nice to know
Hell yeah. The way my week went, if I were a drinker, I’d be joining you.
That is seriously messed up. The question it gets out of the way is “do I want to continue to interact with this person in any way?”
Please stop. I guarantee you that you are making people very uncomfortable by taking a simple question as an opportunity to rag on your ex and share private medical issues. If they follow with questions on whether you had kids, you can simply say “no.”
I agree that “divorced” is a subset of “single,” but your definitions of what the various descriptors mean show a VERY narrow-minded view of marriage and relationships. You also make a huge assumption about single people.
Not all people who are married or in a relationship are monogamous. Single people who are not in a relationship should not be assumed to be “available.”
As for me, I’m both single (not in a relationship) and divorced (formerly married). I default to describing myself as “single,” unless there is some relevant reason to state that I’m divorced, such as the ones already described in this thread. Continuing to define myself primarily as “divorced” just seems like I’m still defining myself by my relationship to my ex-husband or something.
Being told “divorced” does not; being told “single” when there is an ex-spouse does. It’s a lie by omission. Then again, here we even have the social status (not civil status) “divorced although never married”, which means there is an ex common-law-spouse; “divorced” and “single” are different civil statuses. It’s a matter of being precise.