My thoughts on sexuality (to say nothing of toasters) in a nutshell.
Well put. Altough sometimes , as I said , I don’t even need the hot naked men. Sometimes just the woman…if I can imagine myself being that woman…is enough
But yes the point is it is a fluid thing.
Confusing isn’t it? Kind of like…being human.
Among my gay friends, the strongest attitude anyone ever expressed was that heterosexual sex was kind of icky because women felt wrong and smelled wrong. Most seemed to just find it neutral to just lacking in appeal. Watching hetero porn ranked from, “fun, because some of the guys are cute and really into it,” to, “it makes me giggle because it’s so silly.” Of course, I have to admit that some of the hetero porn is pretty silly, even if you’re into it. As a mostly straight guy, I found some of the gay porn I’ve seen to be kind of silly too, so I can definitely see where they’re coming from.
On a side note, in some hetero porn the guys enthuse, “you like that big ¢%¢# in your @#$?!” while pounding away with a tool that’s the thickness of the poor woman’s wrist. I can’t help but think sometimes that if the situation were reversed those guys would be squealing like little girls. I think that would be pretty funny, personally. :eek: 
I hope I’m not drummed out of the lesbian clubhouse for admitting that I don’t find penises to be yucky. I have that much bisexuality. Enough to admire the beauty of penises from a distance, but not enough to get me into bed with one (I’m married, so getting into bed with anyone else’s genitalia is just not on my agenda, but I reserve the right to hypothesize). If I were single, I would still prefer to date women. Either genetic or trans makes no difference, as long as they’re women.
For me, coming out as lesbian led to a further realization that I could accept the slight bisexual tendency I knew I had. In practical terms, this means I now feel free to flirt with anyone at all, male or female, gay, straight, lesbian, or whatever, it’s all good. To hug and kiss on the lips people of all genders and sexualities now feels perfectly comfortable to me. I’m such an affection whore.
Before I fully owned up to my gender identity, I once wondered if I was a gay man, even though I’d only been sexual with women my whole life. Perhaps the resentment at being repeatedly raped when I was 13 turned me off men when otherwise I might have developed some stronger bisexuality. I don’t know. So I went looking at gay porn on the web and found the sight of one man fucking another fairly pleasant. Not as good for me as heterosexual fucking, which in turn is surpassed by honest lesbianism. But it was OK, you know? It isn’t hard to see male bodies as beautiful (even if women’s are way better).
But soon something struck me as seriously wrong, from my personal point of view. Gay male sites are heavily, heavily gender segregated and depicted a world with no women. Whoa man, that is so the opposite of where I want to be. I’m at my happiest when surrounded by all-women space. It was this exploration into sexuality and gender that proved to me conclusively I could never be a gay man, and very soon afterward I came out to myself as a woman and eventually accepted that I was basically lesbian with a bisexual tinge.
Bisexual has such a wide range of possible variations, I think it must be uniquely configured for each individual. I have found only a very tiny minority of men to be actually attractive in my eyes. The only men I really feel comfortable with are soft and gentle in nature, comparable to women of that nature. Therefore most of the men I get along with the best, as friends, are gay men. I have met heterosexual men of that description, though, and those are the ones that make me wonder… But when it comes to women, I feel immediate liking and attraction for practically every woman I ever see.
I would like some good old Straight Dope on what exactly the Kinsey Scale measures. I’m used to thinking of sexuality in terms of orientation rather than action. (Maybe that shows how little action I get!) For a while, I rated myself as a 5. I see a lot of other people casually assigning Kinsey numbers based on felt sexual orientation. But then I read something to the effect that the Kinsey scale measures experiences that you actually do, not just contemplate. In that regard, my experiential sex life was solid zero when I thought I was hetero male, and has been solid 6 since I’ve come out as lesbian. Unless you count a friendly peck on the lips…