I’m willing to bet dollars to donuts that there are more men out there willing to go down on a smelly vag than women willing to swallow(and it sucks to go from a nice warm mouth to the mechanical, clinical feel of a handjob!)
As to the OP, my SO says YES! to oral sex if it’s done slowly and without direct pressure on the clit.
I love performing it. It’s crazy-fun.
I disagree. Very different. I happen to find the former more enjoyable, but if that’s the case, it stands to reason that someone out there feels just as strongly about preferring the latter.
Absolutely!!
I do enjoy receiving oral sex, but a good hand job…wow.
And for those of you “helpfully” pointing out reasons why some of us might not be that crazy about oral sex: Why should we love it so much? What makes it superior to other forms of stimulation? In the absence of hang-ups and issues, why is any of this anything but a simple matter of personal preference?
I like it more that I’m older, but The Husband, he doesn’t like giving it. I infinitely prefer penetration, so it’s all good.
Some women just don’t care for it–no reason why they should. I don’t like porn and for some that makes me frigid and anti-sex and icky. Too bad for them. I’ve had no complaints… I’d like it to get to the point where X can stand up and say Y and not be second guessed etc.
That said, I wouldn’t turn down oral. Does this help? 
I feel like I should mention for the record that my original post in this thread was in jest.
You’re absolutely right, of course. Even *in * the presence of hang-ups and issues, it’s a matter of personal preference. There is nothing objectively better about any particular form of stimulation, and sex is supposed to be fun, so it’s okay to skip the stuff you don’t enjoy.
There’s no “should” about it. But I’m still willing to bet that, statistically, MOST women find it pleasurable. Ergo, if you’ve never tried it because you’re ashamed of what you think might be an unpleasant odor (which probably isn’t) or because you think he must be doing it out of obligation, not pleasure (which he probably isn’t) or because you think your thighs are too fat (which they probably aren’t) or he’ll see your jiggly belly (which he probably won’t care about, 'cause, hey! pussy six inches lower is much more interesting!), then I think that’s a shame. Same way I think it’s a shame to refuse a new food because it’s “icky” when you’ve never tried it. Is it possible you’ll try it and not like it? Well, yeah. But it’s more likely that you’ll try it and like it, and it will be one more bodily delight to enjoy. We don’t have so many of those that we should be throwing away one of nature’s greatest gifts, y’know?
But of course, if you don’t like it, you don’t like it. And if you don’t want to try it, don’t try it. But when I run my workshops for young women and hear these reasons from girls who have never tried it, I try to dispel the myths so that they can make a more informed choice: you probably don’t smell bad, he (or she) probably *likes *doing it, and pulling your knees out with your hands makes access possible no matter the size of your thighs.
I’m not trying to explain why YOU don’t like oral sex. I’m explaining some of the reasons given to me by girls who I’ve talked to who won’t try oral sex.
Well, not right away.
That’s by no means a deal breaker. Sometimes, it adds a little something special.
My experience is that most women do like it, but on the few occasions I’ve found they don’t, it’s been #1. I have heard fears of #3 regarding teeth, from previous bad experiences. Not run into #2, as far as I can remmeber.
I don’t want to sound like I just fell off the turnip truck, but…how the hell do you get your teeth involved???
Not only yes, but Helllllll Yesssss!
What’s not to like? Mmm mm mmm mmm mmm. I like a lot of clitoral stimulation so I must say that a finger and tongue are definitely two different sensations.
Oral stimulation is fantastic, both giving and receiving.
Some people think “nibbling” and “biting” are appropriate… NOT! :eek:
In all honesty, I find the idea of it kinda gross. It’s just…ick. So on the surface, no.
However, with the right person, someone who really knows what they’re doing, and if the mood is right*, oral can be absolutely mind-shatteringly good. So it’s not really something I seek out or request, and if it’s not going well I would definitely call it quits rather than ‘endure’, but it’s not something I’d say I uniformly dislike.
*It’s possible that means ‘I’m rather drunk’, but that would be quite un-lady-like now, wouldn’t it?
ETA: Teeth? Oh good god, if you’re using your teeth, you’re doing it very, very wrong.
You seem to have missed a large part of my post. I specifically addressed the issue of “hang-ups and issues,” and I said that I DO enjoy receiving oral sex.
Last girl I dated didn’t like it. Mostly because for her it was pointless, she actually came easier during intercourse (bizarre, I know). Every once in a while she’d let me do it (I enjoy performing it, it’s a lovely part of the body), but it was more for me than her.
What a weird thread. I would have thought if I ever discovered a woman who didn’t like having her man in the boat wrapped in my tongue that she was either frigid or had severe body/sexuality/intimacy issues. Ignorance fought, I guess.
How do these women reach orgasm with a partner? Digital stimulation? Or are these the types who write woeful cries for help like “well, I don’t have to have an orgasm to feel good, just being with my man is all I need…”?
Ladies – Thank you all for providing your opinions and experiences. From the sample of respondents, it seems that it is not that unusual for a woman not to enjoy or want this, for a variety of reasons. I’ll keep an eye on the thread to see what else comes out.
Possible reason #37: It’s too passive.
I’m usually too ADD to enjoy receiving oral, unless there’s something else going on simultaneously. It’s far too easy for my mind to wander and get distracted, I prefer being more active. Since orgasm via penetration is almost guaranteed, oral is a nice bit of brief foreplay that I could just as easily skip.
My limited sample correlates being able to come really easily during intercourse with being “meh” about oral. There’s more than a few replies in this thread that suggest similarly.
It’s a mood thing for me.
Which means sometimes I love it, and sometimes it isn’t what I want at all.
Sometimes I want the physical intimacy of actual intercourse, and sometimes I enjoy lying back and being indulged. Sometimes I love indulging my SO and sometimes I’m selfish. (Which means sometimes he gets a BJ and sometimes he doesn’t.)
I have a hard time believing that oral sex, done properly, just isn’t enjoyable for some women, even if it’s just foreplay…but then again, I’m just one girl. I have no right to say what other women should or shouldn’t like.
I will say that even though I’ve never worried about how I smell/taste, my current SO really really gets off on both, and I find it both bewildering and a turn-on. Like I never thought the way it tastes would be a turn-off…but I never had any idea that it could be as delicious as he seems to find it. He really really loves it. He gets off on it.
That’s of course a bonus for me, but I would never expect that. Which is why I can’t say that a woman who doesn’t enjoy oral sex is “hung up” in some way. Who am I to say what should get another woman off? If she’s getting off and so are you, and you’re both enjoying yourselves, I don’t think the “how” is particularly important.