I reach orgasm with penetration or clitoral stimulation – oral is just *meh * for me. Sure, I can orgasm from my husband’s oral work, but I prefer the penile penetration bit. As for the bolded part…uh, yeh, no – on the rare occasion when my partner doesn’t bring me to orgasm, I do it for myself. I’m selfish like that.
The reasons for women not liking oral are varied and many, but in the end, my point is not one of them makes a woman weird or unusual – well, unless she can only orgasm by slathering her nether regions with tequila and setting them on fire – that would make her both weird and unusual. Everyone has likes and dislikes. It makes me sad when a female friend says she can’t enjoy oral because she “smells” or “it’s gross” because that’s usually a hang-up and being as how I am about as un-hung-up as a girl can get…well, it’s just sad.
Just a note- some women can’t cum from oral sex, some find it ‘meh,’ but it can still be beneficial in the long term. Getting dry humped won’t make me cum, but it gets me revved up for what’s to come. In simple terms, foreplay. Even ‘bad’ oral (with no biting or excessive attention to labia) can be good if it doesn’t go on too long and is followed by something better. Also, it’s nice to know the guys cares (and yes, there are still guys who do not go down on girls, even to reciprocate. And I don’t just mean Italian mobsters)
ETA Oh, and a woman doesn’t have to swallow to know her partner’s pre-cum – or scrotum – is funky.
I was fortunate in having an older woman teach me how to do cunnilingus. The strange thing is she was less experienced in some ways. She had been married 10 years and said she never had an orgasm with her husband in any position. He was of the “old school” where a good wife was supposed to lie there and take it until he was done. After he fell asleep, she’d go into the bathroom and get herself off.
But she decided it was time to make a change in both lovers and techniques, and we experimented, starting with Masters & Johnson and a lot of trial & error. We both learned a lot and much of what I learned was applicable to other women. I have had rave reviews (or else they’re very good actors a la Harry/Sally).
And I once dated a nurse who taught me about smells. Anything that doesn’t smell right is because of poor hygiene or infections. She told me that infections are so common that many women think that is the normal female condition, but it doesn’t take much to clear it up and everyone’s much happier. Think Flagyl, girls. You don’t have to smell like a 10 day old carp.
Ladies, how about simultaneous oral with g-spot stimulation? When I gradually, slowly work up to that, it seems to drive some lovers wild.
Who was it that said that oral sex was like the sexual equivalent of watching paint dry? I just don’t care for it. I don’t like a lot of stimulation there–I’m far more about the penetration. Trust me, I’ve tried it. In all sorts of moods, in all sorts of contexts, but only with my husband and he’s the only one there will ever be. So if I don’t like it now, I probably never will.
Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens
Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens
Superb cunnilingus from each of my flings
These are a few of my favorite things!
I know several have already answered, but I’ve just got to ask, where did you get the idea that there are NO women that orgasm from good ole penile penetration?
Makes me feel all kinky that my most screaming, mind-blowing orgasms come from classic missionary position. What can I say? I’m just freaky that way
As a woman, I’m actually surprised at the number of women here that have orgasms from penetration. I don’t recall ever getting off from penile penetration (band name?). All of the so-called experts say that it’s difficult to orgasm from penetration so marshmallow’s statement doesn’t seem odd to me at all. The very position of the clit and vaginal opening aren’t really conducive to high levels of stimulation…for me anyway.
Except that if you remember the g-spot is internal. It can only be stimulated effectively via penetration (preferably penile IMO). I don’t want to go into TMI territory, but I also mention that there are 2 dimensions with penetration, depth and girth – both of which have certain pleasurable qualities. At least, in my personal experience.
I can sort of understand how someone might get the idea that women rarely cum from penetration alone. They’re in the minority, and there is a lot of emphasis on this in women’s mags and sex columns to assure other women that they’re normal. Of course, in a way clitoral and vaginal orgasms are one and the same, as the ‘g-spot’ is really just the ‘roots’ of the clitoris.
I find it absolutely flabbergasting that women get off easier through oral. I rarely get off from oral, although I enjoy it. It’s foreplay; the appetizer to the main course. I’m usually too impatient.
I don’t have many, if any hangups, I have a great opinion of my body, I orgasm frequently and with vigor-mostly from penetration. Tongue is such pale comparison to a good hard dicking.
Maybe all you oral fans are just afraid of real sex*
Oral with digital penetration is my favorite kind of sex. The orgasms I get from oral are the ones that leave me unable to speak or walk or function for several minutes. Penetration orgasms are amazing too, but a lot more work for me, physically.
And the other thing… you can’t actually look into your partner’s eyes during oral. I mean, I guess you sort of can, but there’s more distance. So in a way it’s way more intimate, but in another way it’s not intimate at all.
Re: everyone who’s naysaying the teeth: yes, this is certainly rare, but as maybe men know better than women, not all women are the same. I’ve had teeth requested before.
Hmmm. This most recent tack may prompt me to start a thread on the fundamental hotness of Julie Andrews. I always thought I was a little off for thinking of her as sexy, but maybe I’m not alone.
I just don’t care for it. I don’t like a lot of stimulation there–I’m far more about the penetration. Trust me, I’ve tried it. In all sorts of moods, in all sorts of contexts, but only with my husband and he’s the only one there will ever be. So if I don’t like it now, I probably never will.