Oh man! Give me her number?
What? Don’t look at me like that! No, I don’t mean your girlfriend’s number. I mean the hairdresser!
I’ll be there. And yes, BellRungBookShut-CandleSnuffed, even at 72. 
This is one of the few negatives of oral sex: The view.
Sam – I beg to differ. As I’m very visual, the view is a big part of why I enjoy doing it.
I’ve never had any difficulty having an orgasm during intercourse*. In fact, it’s a rare day when I can’t have an orgasm during intercourse. And, frankly, on those days, there’s just no force on heaven or earth that’ll result in my having an orgasm. Some days are just like that.
I think part of the disconnect is that at least in my case, there’s not a whole lot of room between “oooo that feels lovely” and “sonofabitch that hurts stop it!” A little is great, but too much rapidly becomes annoying and shortly thereafter painful. If I’m masturbating (which I thoroughly enjoy and do often Omniscient), I’m, well, me and know precisely where the line is and can avoid it very, very easily - a gentleman who isn’t me isn’t going to have the same precise and instantaneous feedback without whole piles of very offputting up-to-the-minute instructions from me. I find that sucks the fun out of th experience for both me and him.
Another (and probably much bigger) part of the disconnect is that some folks have gotten the meme that women can never come from intercourse alone stuck in their head. Granted, for some women, this is the truth. And for a bunch more women, orgasm from intercourse alone is difficult (or takes a hella long time, which runs into technical difficulties on both sides). However, neither of these subsets account for all women. Some of us do just fine with intercourse alone. And prefer it.
The orgasms I get from intercourse alone (with a bare minimum of foreplay - typically less than a couple of minutes - more than that just gets annoying for me) are* better * than the ones I’ve gotten through digital stimulation. I can’t speak for orgasms from oral, because I’ve never had one - it just doesn’t do anything for me.
*Okay, I officially give up. By “intercourse” I mean a nice solid deep dickin’. Yes, oral sex is intercourse, and ditigal sex is intercourse, and lots of things are actually intercourse - blah blah blah disclaimers about definitions blah blah blah 
There’s not as much physical contact with oral. I mean, yes, the man has his face all up in your vulva. But he seems far away. With most positions for intercourse, you can either be face to face or have a lot of body-to-body contact, which enhances intimacy (to me, at least).
Maybe I’m thinking of 69. Panoramic view of the Black Hole of Calcutta.
My appreciation for oral sex has grown exponentially in line with my partner’s developing skill and appreciation for performance. Early in our relationship I’d enjoy and encourage the activity in a theoretical sense, but it certainly wasn’t rocking my world by any stretch of the imagination. As the years have gone by and he’s started paying more attention and enjoying it himself, it’s gotten better and better and I’m more and more enthusiastic about it.
I’d advise talking with her to find out exactly what she doesn’t like about it. It may be a personal hangup, may be skill, may just be that she’s not into that particular activity. For me, I didn’t get off with oral sex for years, but didn’t get off in any realm, in general, for a long time either–so the problem wasn’t only his skill, it was also that I didn’t know what to advise him to do, either. In other words, we had to learn together what worked, and fortunately for me he’s an attentive student :D.
Also, about all the teeth and nibbling comments, I beg to differ. Nibble anything you want, except the very most sensitive bit, and toss in a few occasional sharp nips to labia majora and inner thighs, please. 
Although apples, for all their deliciousness, don’t make you come.
My SO doesn’t like the oral either. Well, she does, but not for longer than it takes to get her primed for the Main Event ™.
She’s only let me stay down there long enough to make her come once, and that required a lot of rope.
I don’t know. I have seen some interesting websites. I think there might be people for whom apples are an orgasm-inducing item. For me, oral doesn’t make me come either, so it is just like apples to me. I don’t particularly care for either except in very specific quantities, when I am in the mood for them and in a certain way. Go figure.
Funny enough, this thread is quite reassuring for me. For so many years, we have had the “women don’t come with just penetration” myth shoved at us from every angle. We have had the guys told “oh, you’d better give her foreplay for hours if you want her to call you back” crap. To read a thread in which so many women admit that they are like I – and enjoy a good old-fashioned dicking, well, it comforts me. Hard to imagine I was beginning to think I must be strange in that foreplay for me was never much more than prepping for the Good Stuff.
At any rate, it just goes to prove what I have said for years upon years – the only way to make your partner orgasm and enjoy it is to listen to them when they say “yes, that’s it” or “no, ick, yuck, ohmygawd that’s gross” and give them feedback for what works for you. My husband and I are both very open about what we like and dislike. There are a few things he likes (such as giving oral) that for me are meh, I let him have it sometimes in return for him doing me the same courtesy on a few things that I like and he is meh about. We have a good sex life, if a bit on the rare side for both of us. That’s just because we have kids, though.
Which begs the question: exactly what quantity of apple(s) does make you come then?
Having been in an LTR with a girl who only came via oral (and wanted to do so thrice daily), and then ended up in an LTR with a girl who (virtually) only comes during penetration, you can see, perhaps, why men like to answer the question “what are you thinking?” with “Nothing”.
We’re saving our brains for the stuff that requires really deep thought, like sex.
Nitpick: That prompts the question, not begs the question.
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So it does.
A little more ignorance fought.
I’ve never come from penetration, but it sure is fun. It’s been a while, but I can safely say that actually having an orgasm isn’t always required during sex for me. I can be perfectly happy without it, or if I don’t have one during but find I do want one afterwards, that’s easy enough to do anyway. I don’t know if it’s been technique issues or what, but I’m pretty meh on oral – I’m up for it if he really wants to, but if he expects to rock my world unless he does something quite different than I’ve experienced before he’s going to be disappointed. Not that it’s not enjoyable, but it just doesn’t do much.
Gayish man here, who although having had sex with women, has never given oral sex to one.
Anecdotal from female housemate who has been open about her sex life: Used to not be able to orgasm from sex, and really only enjoyed anal sex. Until one sex partner who apparently was very good at oral sex, which gave her her first taste of orgasm. I think regular intercourse still didn’t do it for her, however. Apparently she had never really experimented much with self-pleasure. After this guy she got a vibrator and started trying different techniques on herself. With her next boyfriend regular intercourse was able to bring her to climax, which she credits to her self-exploration. Having read a lot of women’s lit, there does seem to be a common theme of not being able to climax from regular intercourse until having explored self-pleasure.
From a man’s perspective, I’ll say that personally, although oral sex from certain people is great, from others it is at best boring and at worst painful or uncomfortable. Perhaps because I’m circumcised, any direct rubbing against the head of my dick is uncomfortable and will “numb” me to any pleasurable sensation. Unfortunately a lot of people seem to think the way to get you off is to concentrate friction in that area. So I can imagine women having similar problems if say they would enjoy oral sex in general, but direct rubbing against the clit was uncomfortable.
Women seem to have a greater reputation for being more complicated and/or varietal when it comes to their needs in reaching climax. I find that I’m somewhat particular and sensitive in similar ways and wonder if this a true generalization or just a myth.
Receiving isnt my favorite thing - most of the time I do without. Well, until I met my SO. He loves it! He does a great job, so I cant say that I dont care for it because of option 3.
For me, I prefer the intensity of orgasms via intercourse. Oral is a nice change when I’m really in the mood for it, but that’s the key - I need to be in the mood. I was blessed with a very sensitive clit, but at times the stimulation can lean on the annoying side. Besides, I orgasm more via vaginal stimulation vs clitoris.
I’ve been with a few women in my time, and not once, ever, have I ever been with one that did not enjoy it. It amazes me that I’m reading about women not liking it.
Or maybe i’m just damn good at it? 
Either that, or something about prison makes women crave it more?
Or maybe they were just damned good actors? (Partially in jest)
As for myself, I do enjoy oral sex. Especially when my partner is able to use his mouth and his finger(s). Sadly, a lot of women do not enjoy it for those reasons mentioned above.
Sex isn’t always about chasing the big O, but rather cruising down the winding, luxurious road. Destination matters not. The only things that do are your travel companion and mode of transportation.
So ladies, happy motoring!