Do people generally like you?

Are you well-liked in groups? I’m talking about in a class or at work where people who may not know you well see you, hear you, but aren’t close friends. IOW do you think people like you based on the general impression you give when you participate in a group? You may select more than one answer and explain ad lib and/or qualify any way you like.

No, I am not a group person at all and it shows. Most people who only know me through such situations think I am really, quiet, shy, or very formal. That isn’t the case at all. I just am not interested in group activities enough to do or say much and like to keep a low profile until I can find a way out of it. People that first met me in something like class or work and then have gotten to know me personally well one-on-one are generally pretty shocked.

Yes, people really do seem to like me. At least I seem to attract people to me in social settings even if I’m not necessarily trying to. Maybe because I am generally smiling and I look fairly safe?

I’m going to qualify my yes. For all I know, people might think I’m a complete bore and an idiot, but based on their reactions to me, they seem to like me fairly well. I used to teach PE classes at a university when I lived in Anchorage, and I got a lot of repeat victims…errr students :D, which seems to suggest that my classes were pretty popular. (they weren’t mandatory classes sooo…)

I attribute that to the fact that I have a well-developed sense of the ridiculous, and the ability to laugh at myself. I’m also not terribly shy (though I was as a kid), and can pretty much strike up a conversation about anything, anywhere, with anyone (rich, poor, black, white, man, woman, whatever). That seems to put people at ease.

I’m pretty shy so people often find me standoffish. When forced into social situations with me - i.e. spouse’s friends, teammates, coworkers, etc, I am generally popular and liked.

It helps that I’m handsome and hilarious : )

Not really sure.
I have issues, relating to my mother having a personality disorder and constantly telling me everyone hated me. So I can’t really tell if someone likes me or not.

I’m obese and often get pre-judged by people I don’t know. But then, people I work with generally like me, so perhaps you just need to get to know me a little bit first to realise I’m actually an okay person. :confused:

So not quite sure how to answer your poll. People aren’t usually pleased to meet me, but once they get to know me, they like me.

These are interesting answers… thank you.

For myself, I think I’m smart and charming and likable but I don’t think people like me all that much. I am passionate and I talk fast, especially when I care about something, and it comes across to “normal” people as abrasive and too intense. After the fact, I’ll look back and decide that people don’t like me. I think most people are glad when I leave the room. I could be wrong.

Anyway… my SO is like me and that’s nice. People have told both of us all our lives to “calm down,” and “you’re too intense.” When we’re together–wheee! Sparks and electricity. We don’t wear each other out the way we wear other people out.

However, I am super reliable, so people will turn to me in a crisis because they know I can be counted on. They just don’t necessarily want to spend the day with me.

I’m fascinated by how we see ourselves v. how we think others see us v. how others REALLY see us. This poll is just a conversation opener.

I am told I have a charisma. I am comfortable in group settings, can speak in front of an auditorium, etc.

My issue is I dont have a social filter. When people ask me what I think, I tell them. Sometimes, it isnt what they want to hear. At that point, I am labeled an ass hole, prick etc.

Usually at this point I tell them next time they ask me a question to be sure to list a selection of answers they wish to hear.

I think people probably have neutral feelings about me. I’m very friendly, and extremely nice, but I don’t really speak up in groups and I’m not very assertive. The truth is, what makes me interesting is the fact that I’m a little bit crazy, all the time. I’m neurotic and ridiculously silly and I wear my heart on my sleeve. Most people who really know me love me for that. But in most social contexts I tend to keep the crazy reined in. It’s one of those people either love it or hate it kind of things. So I imagine I am a generally pleasant but not terribly interesting person.

You are my favorite kind of person. You always know where you stand with people who lack tact.

Me, I’m a born diplomat. I’m just in awe of people who really don’t care what others think.

I went with a slightly odd mix of answers–I’m invisible, but people like me. I tend to be quiet in groups until I have something to say (or until something needs to be said, and no one else will do it), and I often go unnoticed for quite a while. Once I do speak up, though, people generally react very positively to me. Depending on the nature of the conversation, I apparently come across as “thoughtful and trustworthy” or “funny and nice” most of the time. I think kids sometimes find me a little intimidating, at least until they realize that I will sit and talk with them about cartoons, video games, and other things that interest them.

That’s the key, I suppose; I can and will talk to pretty much anyone about nearly anything. It’s kind of funny, given that I’m rather introverted. I find that listening carefully before I speak is a big help.

I am one who lacks tact. Ask my wife. LOL
“Honey, do these jeans make my butt look fat”?

“No hun, your butt makes your butt look fat. If you dont want to look fat, lose weight”

I’m liked by more people than I like, which is a bit annoying.

I’d say I’m probably somewhere between the 3rd and the 4th option. Usually invisible or forgettable, but when I’m not I probably come off as contentious and ultimately misunderstood. I usually try to make friends through humor, but often people don’t understand my type of humor, thus it’s pretty hard for people to get to know me. However those who do usually like me. I think you’d be hard pressed to find someone who genuinely does not like me.

They only like me for the bees. :frowning:

I had a boss who used to warn my clients, “You will hate Kunilou for the first month. If you get past that, you won’t trade him for anyone else.”

You’re a guy? :eek:

I voted the 5th option.

In a work or school setting, I’m a sanctimonious, overbearing asshole of the first degree. I absolutely despise group work, because in truth, I’ve never been anything but slowed down by a group, and listening to other people’s (often idiot) ideas just gets to me. That, and I suffer heavily from the lack of social filter (and understanding, for that matter’s sake) which dngnb8 mentioned. I’m also an absolutely anal nutbag about grammar and proper patterns of inference, and will call people out on far-from-egregious mistakes.

The few friends I do have are very close friends. I’m typically characterized by them as intensely loyal, if often emotionally unavailable, and unfailing in my candidness and capacity for deadpan snark.

I think people either like me or are completely indifferent. When I show some personality, I reveal a likeable creature, however manufactured it is. The problem is that I’m reluctant to show some personality. I prefer being in myself, detached from everything and everyone else. And as much as I talk like I want to change, it doesn’t seem like I really have it in me to do this.

I don’t know how people feel when they catch a whiff of my true essence. I try to imagine how I would feel about a person who seems nice enough on the surface, but is actually quite aloof and mysterious. Maybe I’d be curious at first, but then I’d quickly lose interest.

I think if I would engender pure hatred if I was forced to live with someone, though.