Phrased a kinder, but more grammatically suspect, way: how do you present yourself likably?
Do you make it a point to help others in need? Do you, ahem, “keep it real” to appeal to people’s sense of authenticity? Are you all about honesty and integrity? Make people laugh through a good sense of humor? By being smart? Considerate and friendly? Authoritative and protective of others? By being weird and unique?
I don’t have an agenda; please reply at ease. I’m asking because I’m curious what people value most about their own character. It seems to me that somewhere along the line, people make a choice of the kind of person they want to be–a personality to cultivate and project.
A soldier, say, might have chosen to focus all in the protecting others bit. They would want to be remembered fondly as a hero and protector. A comedian might have chosen humor to get people to like them. A doper might want to come off as smart and articulate, able to poke holes in any argument (and maybe cranky for bonus points). And so on.
Me personally, I want people to know and like me for being perceptive, that they can count on me to get a joke, to know I’m aware of what’s going on. Of course, I want to be seen as smart and funny and generous and all that too, but I consciously work on asking good questions, making observations, and looking at things from different angles.
Anyway. Those who don’t care if people like you need not reply. I’ll just assume you’re in the keeping it real camp.