From post #1, I can only see three possible resolutions:
- Officially take the side of transgender/allies by prohibiting posts that question the validity of transgender identities (on the basis of said posts being inherently jerkish, encouragement of gender discrimination, personal attacks, or hate speech).
- Officially take the other side by saying you won’t prohibit posts that question the validity of transgender identities (on the basis of said posts being inherently jerkish, encouragement of gender discrimination, personal attacks, or hate speech).
- Change the rules to allow personal attacks and/or encouragement of gender discrimination
- Status quo. Transgender members/allies are subject to behavior that they consider a violation of the rules, but you are unable or unwilling to decide whether said behavior is actionable. In practice, the same as #2.
My opinion is that this list is exhaustive. If your goal is to be a safe place for transgender members, I highly recommend picking option 1. The trade off is that we are unable to debate the validity of transgender identities any more.
If you are unwilling to censor that debate, maybe you need to re-evaluate the rules against personal attacks and encouraging gender discrimination.
~Max