Young kids aside, this question is geared with the intention of older teens and adults that show up for the gift exchanges.
Do you guys buy for family that you either don’t really like or have never given you any xmas presents in the past? What about those that don’t have job or the youths that have recently entered late teens/adulthood? Do you not think twice if that’s the case?
I have the extended family including the single ones that for some reason like to invite their g/f’s or b/f’s with them where they don’t just show up for dinner but also the gift exchange which to me is a bit odd. As a host, I don’t mind dates coming for dinner but gift exchanges?.. However my personal feeling is that the spirit of giving works both ways (kids are exempt because it’s more for them imo) but even a deadbeat off the streets should be able to either raise enough to buy something from the Dollar Tree or even create a xmas card using a crayon at the very least for someone that has given something to them each year in the past. Or they shouldn’t show up for the gift exchange and celebrate with whoever it is they exchange with.
However that brings us to another point, if you buy a xmas gift for someone for the first time, they may feel obligated to get you something in return and no one really likes to engage in a new circle jerk of having to buy for more and more people each year.
So what’s the thought on this?
- Just never feel any slight return is necessary yet always give to everyone that shows up for the exchange because it’s all about giving except for the people that don’t which makes it ok?
- Stop giving to such people and watch them sit there watching everyone else opening presents.
- Make them a Xmas card using construction paper and a crayon so you don’t feel so bad in the event they got you something this year as well as not feel you wasted any thought into your gift if they don’t bother.
- Tell them to get the hell off your property because the free food is for the gift exchangers and kids only.