Besides, blood tests are no guarantee that you don’t have an STD. They can give you a greater degree of confidence, but these tests aren’t all that reliable.
Chalk me up as another practitioner of involuntary celibacy, so no.
I did carry a condom with me a few times in college. In one instance, I was on a pseudo-date (that is, it wasn’t really clear if this was a romantic outing or just two friends hanging out), and I had a condom in my back pocket. At one pont I pulled out my wallet to see if a clerk had given me correct change, and out flies the condom, landing with a clatter on the pavement. Easily a Top 5 Most Embarassing Moment.
Fortunately, the girl didn’t seem to mind at all, and was very cool about it. In fact, it was probably a blessing in disguise since it made my intentions clear, which is something I’m terrible at doing myself. The rest of the evening was pleasant.
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I’m in a relationship, and on the pill. So I don’t use condoms. When I was single I didn’t carry any round either. There was no need to as I would never sleep with someone I wasn’t in a relationship with.
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I don’t carry them around, and I guess it is a bit bad of me to expect the guy to.
I used to be celibate. It did annoy me a bit when I had told a guy I was celibate, and he specifically brought condoms.
Yeh, because I didn’t have sex for two years for lack of offers :rolleyes: :smack:
I’ve always carried a condom in my purse, and matter of fact, have one in there now. I’m not sure why though–it’s not like I’ve ever been walking down the street and said, “Hey, you there! I got this condom that just itchin’ to be used. Let’s see if it fits you!”
Besides, although I don’t think I actually set out to practice voluntary abstience, it just sorta has worked out that way since I haven’t had sex since 199…um…nevermind. Let’s just say I’ve really picky.
But I’ve never met a single guy I ended up sleeping with not at his place who had condoms. Not even one I met for a booty call long long long ago (FWIW, I called).
I used to carry them on all of my out of town trips with groups in the med kit - people would borrow them all the time. I think I ended up using one or two. But more often I was the “reliable” one of the group one could be bummed off of. (condom, not sex).
Of course, living with the 'rents, I had to not just have them flopping around in my purse, so I took apart a mirror compact, removing the makeup from it, and it fit two condoms in its hard shell perfectly.
With the advent of hard sunglasses cases, though, I can keep quite a few in my purse without fear of loss or puncture.
When I was single, I always had two or three in my purse (Magnums–because I’m optimisic 
). You just never know when you’ll need one, and guys are rarely prepared in my experience. I would expect a guy to have some near his bed, at least. If he didn’t and I didn’t, we wouldn’t be having a good time after all.
Me too, I just haven’t mastered it!
Yes, I always carry condoms. My husband is the only one I don’t use a condom with, and I’m the only one he doesn’t use a condom with. (Before you gasp and hit reply, yes, we have an open marriage. Get over it.) It has nothing to do with pregnancy and everything to do with STD’s. I don’t have sex on my fertile days with anyone but my husband, because condom failure and pregnancy with another man would just be too complicated, even for our complicated marriage.
If a guy has 'em, great. If they’re still in the box and look relatively unrumpled, we may even use his. Otherwise, we’re using mine, which I know are relatively fresh and have not been subjected to heat or fluctuating temperatures.
So where do you find the easy chicks in Dallas? Back before my current girlfriend, I didn’t have much luck in that regard.
I don’t need to practice. I’m already pretty good at not gettin’ any.
I carry condoms although I would rather use one of those patches or something instead. I’m thinking about trying a female condom or a diaphram. The guy I do says it doesn’t make a difference either way, although I find that hard to believe. He’s strange. Whenever I go over to his place - always at his, never at mine - I bring ‘supplies’ i.e., condoms. He should have some laying around somewhere, but I don’t want to risk the chance of being horny and not being able to have sex. I’m sure he’d love to stick it in and give it ago but I can’t trust him to pull out in time and I know you can get pregnant through precum anyway. >< I would love to be a guy and just be able to do it whenever.
When I was in college (long before I ever had sex) I made an ‘emergency sex kit.’ It was in a little santa tin (originally cookies or something) and had a scarf, handcuffs, lube (in individual packets), and many different types of condoms. I still had it many years later when I finally lost my virginity and it was a welcome item! Every college student should make one!
Man, there’s got to be tons in Dallas. BTW, how far is Dallas from FT. Sam Houston? It would be worth the drive!!
That’s up for debate. I’m positive, and there are experts who agree, that any statistics showing the percentage of pregnancies caused by the withdrawal method are highly misleading - I’d say inaccurate. Most of these unplanned pregnancies are likely caused by a person not pulling out in time, and NOT by some single supersperm that made its way out well before orgasm.
I bet it’s impossible to get real figures, but the possibility of becoming pregnant on precum has got to be like Point Zero Something percent.
Compare that with the percentage of condoms that break. And the fact that a person will continue intercourse after orgasm if he is wearing a condom. If a condom breaks while full of sperm, there is a much much greater chance of becoming pregnant than if someone successfully pulls out before ejaculation.
I’m not trying to justify anything. I’m just making a point. I guess what I’m saying is that if your main concern is STDs, then use a condom. If you main concern is pregnancy, then don’t let the guy ejaculate inside of you - whether he’s wearing a condom or not! To properly use a condom, it should be worn before any sexual contact is made. It should be worn the entire time. And it should be withdrawn before orgasm. That is the only way to protect against STDs and pregnancy.
I don’t know anyone who does that.
Even when I have used condoms, they went on well after we started. And the sole purpose of putting it on was so that I wouldn’t have to withdraw and I could continue after orgasm. This is how many people use condoms, and it’s actually riskier than no condom at all. So people who do this think they are practicing safe sex, when they are in fact practicing LESS safe sex.
What I do is one thing. What I’d preach is another.
Don’t think that just because a condom went on, that you’re safe. It has to go on before there is ANY genital contact (to prevent STDs) and he still needs to withdraw before orgasm (to prevent Pregnancy)!
So all you people carrying condoms, keep that in mind. If you don’t use them in that manner you’re probably just wasting your time.
I usually carry one. It’s my one concession to optimism. 
Boy oh boy, I haven’t been dating in a while, thanks to my lovin’ man, but I would think less of a man who didn’t carry one. I mean, I carried one when I was dating. It’s just safer.
Always wanted to say this, but Cite???
I simply can’t believe no condoms is better than a condom in *any * case. I’ll tell you this, I have never had a condom break. Never never never. Does that mean it can’t happen? Of course not…but I think the percentage really isn’t that high - as opposed to the sheer number of unreliable people who would have sex without a condom.
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Mr. Happy could be ensconced in a titanium missle silo and I still wouldn’t let a hammer anywhere near!
Look. If a person does not use a condom properly, if he starts having sex and then puts it on after already engaging, then how is that condom doing anything to prevent STDs? Contact has already been made. Lubricating fluids are already being exchanged. Granted, there is a little benefit of decreasing the amount of contact. As in, "If you wear a condom for the second half of intercourse, then contact is contact of sexual organs is cut in HALF. But I think that’s negligible. Once you rub around in there, it’s probably too late. I dont think there’s much difference between 7 minutes of contact and 15 minutes of contact. (Your stamina may vary)
My point is this:
If you have sex with no condom, and you withdrawal before ejactualtion there is LESS chance of being pregnant than if you use a condom that breaks and spills sperm inside of the vagina.
Since the percentage of condoms breaking is higher than the actual percentage of someone becoming pregnant on precum, then when you compare “using a condom improperly” (continuing to penetrate after orgasm) with “successfully pulling out before ejaculation” then you’ll find the latter to be LESS likely to cause and unwanted pregnancy.
IOW, disregarding STDs, using a condom so you can cum while inside her and continue penetration (for that greater sensation) is a much riskier (with regards to pregnancy) than not using a condom and pulling out before ejaculation.
The problem arises when a person can’t control himself, or thinks he can go just ONE… MORE… SECOND… but then ejaculates and then pulls out. Only to have came inside her a little before he could get out. This is the real problem with the withdrawal method. Precum is not what’s causing these pregnancies. It’s people letting the heat of the moment take over.
Does that mean it can’t happen? Of course not…but I think the percentage really isn’t that high - as opposed to the sheer number of unreliable people who would have sex without a condom.
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I’ a woman and I obsessively carried at least 3 condoms with me, everywhere I went from when I first started having sex (1987?) until I got engaged and went on the pill some 15 years later. I found that men tended to carry condoms in their pockets, which is bad for them. I also was the “reliable one” in my post-college social group, so I never carried any individual condom past it’s expiration date.
I don’t recall ever being offended if a man was prepared, but I didn’t have casual sex.
BTW, NinjaChick, may I assure you it’s possible to get so used to using condoms you’ll use them even when really, really drunk? It is, honest.
Wow, do people really have “emergency sex?” Every time I’ve ended up doin’ it, I knew pretty much before I left that there was a potential for it ending up that way. I can’t imagine needing to have them on me at all times. Are we talking about seeing somebody in an elevator and pushing the emergency stop button type situations, or going out to a club hoping to get lucky?
Eating potato chips will make you fat and clog your arteries. Shoving your potato chips in another woman’s mouth will make her fat and clog her arteries. That’s why it turns into a lecture – it’s not just you who’s taking the risk, it’s both people involved. I’m a smoker, so I’m not going to be lecturing anybody about doing unhealthy stuff to himself; it’s when you’re doing unhealthy stuff to somebody else that gives me the heebie-jeebies.
That’s not to say that the other person isn’t resolved of any responsibility, and isn’t taking her (or his) own risks for agreeing to unprotected sex, of course. But unwanted pregnancy is far from the only thing you have to be concerned about.
“Well, we have the 3-pack for the high school kids (Friday, Saturday, Sunday), the 6-pack for the college crowd (Friday, Friday, Saturday, Saturday, Sunday, Sunday), and the 12-pack for married people (January, February…)”