Now, the instructions on a box of condoms I’ve seen always say to pull out immedietly AFTER orgasm, while holding on to to the base to keep it from coming off.
Granted, while pulling out before orgasm while wearing a condom is certainly more effective than not doing so, I wouldn’t call it the “proper” way to use a condom.
Hmmm…my mom might have a different opinion on that subject. She got pregnant without even having sex. Yep, you heard me correctly. He was “playing” around with his penis NEAR her whoo-ha (maybe in a little, but never orgasmed). Boy, was she really, really, really surprised when she was pregnant at 15. All thanks to a friend of ours called pre-cum.
And yes, I am positive. She told me this story as a teenager and I pretty much blew it off as a scare tactic. Now that I am older and have been married for awhile, I asked her if she was actually telling me the truth back then and she still stands by the original story of pre-cum.
laughter Why, yes, I suppose so. One of my ex-boyfriends liked to occasionally have sex in odd places. Not in an exhibitionist way, thankfully. I’ve occasionally had sex in the car between dinner and a movie, so leaving condoms at home isn’t really an option. I suppose if I hadn’t had condoms with me, I would have just waited, but it’s nice to leave one’s options open.
Well, occasionally. Generally with a friend-with-benefits or the like. Most of the time, I have to admit, my condoms end up being given to my unprepared friends, rather than being used by me! Everyone knows “Mom” is going to have 'em. I don’t mind. If it means my friends have a chance of not dying sooner, I’m happy to be the rubber provider.
Yes, the chance is VERY, VERY small. However, there is still a chance. If the chance wasn’t so impossibly small, I’d never have let my boyfriend do it. There is sperm in precum, it is not super sperm, but it is there, albiet in small amounts. The sperm count is higher if there was a recent ejaculation and lower (almost to 0) if urination recently occured.
Mostly ‘precum’ pregnancies are due to the guy not pulling out in time, as you said, but I don’t want to be the .0001% where it was different.
I completely disagree on the condom part. First of all, I buy Japanese condoms which are held to a stricter standard than American condoms, secondly, have you seen what condoms can take?!
When I was in high school, my gay friend Moses and I got some condoms and played around with them. We stuck them over soda cans/bottles/size 13 feet, shoes/tons of stuff WAY bigger and more oddly shaped than the regular penis. Any condom brand I buy I always try one out first. If it can be easily broken, I don’t use it. The condoms I use now are nearly indestructable. And they’re cheap too. 
I also buy condoms with spermicide and keep lemon juice in the house so if a condom DID break, I’d hope I’d kill the litter buggers before they could get anywhere.
Pregnancy is the only thing that worries me. I only have sex with one guy and both of us were virgins before we did it and we haven’t done anyone else since doing it.
Ok, time for my “scare the kiddies” tale. All 100% absolutely, positively true.
I was sexually assaulted when I was young. Took me a long time (longer than most of my friends anyway) to decide I wanted to have sex. I was 17. I went to the OB, got a prescription for birth control pills and a sample pack to take home, along with instructions to state taking them the first Sunday after my next period. Plus, admonitions to make usre I used protection for the first month, just in case.
Two weeks later (one week into the pills), it’s Prom Night. I decided that was the night. However, I’m not trusting the pills yet. Nevermind, we’ll use other protection. Talked to mom (she’s a cool mom) and decided my best double-triple up options were the Today Sponge with spermicide, a condom and an extra tube of spermicide insterted vaginally before intercourse.
I spent the week reading over all the directions. I was going to have sex, but I was going to be responsible about it, dammit!
You see where this is going, right?
I got pregnant. The best part? THE CONDOM DIDN’T BREAK! I had an intact condom, two spermicides, an additional barrier and I STILL GOT FUCKING PREGNANT!!! AT 17!!!
:mad:
WhyKid, my litttle 0.000001% miracle baby, will be 12 in January.
Correction humbly accepted.
Though I always took “immediately after orgasm” to mean “immediately after you start cumming”. An orgasm can easily last several strokes. And then one tends to keep going a little for proper ‘follow through’. I figured the manufacturer would rather a person get it out of there before he filled the thing up with ejaculate. That would be safest…
kittenlm, I am positive that your mother is telling you the truth. However, the honesty of the boy she was with is questionable. Is this someone who is still in your life that you’ve talked to about it? Or just your mom?
Anyway, it is so very possible that this 15 year old boy actually got off from the “playing around” and actually came. You said "* (maybe in a little, but never orgasmed*. Man, that is ALL it takes to make a 15 year old cum. It is likely that he never mentioned this to your mother because he was SO embarassed. Cumming from two strokes isn’t “manly” and isn’t something he’d want to admit to.
This is possible. And it would be possible for your mother to not have realized.
But really… the posibility of precum NEAR the vagina causing a pregnancy. Do decimals even go that low? If that is indeed what happened, then WOW. However, the story is still anecdotal and the fact that such an occurance is Point Zero Something percent still stands.
Most likely, the 15 year old came a little and didn’t admit to it.
Oh boy, at the risk of going yet to another area of this discussion - what about oral sex? Condoms/no condoms? What about the ladies? Anyone tried the female condoms?
Just a very curious questions…who needs sex ed when we have the Dopers?
Oh, cool about the open marriage part too. It’s one of those "that would be cool, I think)
Back when I was single, I used to carry condoms when I was out on the pull. I didn’t carry them in my wallet on a daily basis, which would damage the latex, only at night if I thought I’d get lucky. (Which, as it is for most gay men, was a virtual certainty. ;))
Gay guys are also generally pretty good at keeping condoms at home. In some cities, most gay bars stock packets of condoms and lube which are FREE, if you ask the bartender. There really is no excuse for not protecting yourself.
I tried this the first time my GF and I started fooling around. Although we were both virgins (no risk of disease) she was a little nervous over it (and the mess).
Flavoured condoms were bought, tried, and thrown out. For regular sex the flavouring irritated her bits so they weren’t any good for any sort of sex (IMO).
Between me and my (now) Fiancee we use FAM (not Rhythm) and condoms on the days she’s fertile. I don’t carry them with me (since it’s not recommended as prior dopers have said) so they remain in my room. From the 76 condoms I originally purchased (from 12 different brands) we ended up favouring the expensive non-latex Trojans (I forgot the name of the condom). We also liked the Japanese brand (Kimono maybe?) the most (non-ribbed).
Never, otherwise, carried a condom in my younger days since I personally wouldn’t let myself have sex with someone I had just met.
I’ve never used condoms or a dental dam for oral sex (yes, I know you’re supposed to, you can still get some STDs). Lucky for me, I never had any negative consequences from this, and it’s kind of a moot point for me now, as I’m in a long-term relationship.
Ive SEEN the female condom, though never used one. From what I understand, it’s not as effective as the male condom, and I always figured that a layer of latex is a layer of latex (or in my case, polyeurethane, as I’m allergic to latex), regardless of whether it’s a male or female condom. The point of the female condom, IMHO, was so that women wouldn’t feel pressured to make the guy wear a condom. Rather, they could put in their female condom. Still, why would have sex with a guy who refused to wear a condom, even after you asked him?
Trojan Supra? Those are the polyeurethane ones, they also have a lambskin condom that is called NaturLamb (yes, I am well versed in the arts of contraception!)
Trojan Supras are the best for me, when I used condoms. As previously stated, I can’t use latex, and I always found the lambskin ones to be uncomfortable.
Oh goodness. The first time I used a polyeurethane one, I was so freaked out - I couldn’t feel the condom, and neither could he! We kept stopping nervously - “Are you sure it’s still on? Did we break through it?” until we realized that, for once, the hype was justified. It really *does *provide sensitivity so good that it’s like going au naturel.
Now if only they weren’t so expensive!
I’m not one to comment on the appropriateness of a user name, but I can’t quite help myself on this one.
Female here.
Yes, I always carry one. I have to make it always because if I took one for a particular “occasion” I’d feel l’d jinx it. Silly but true.
I never used to but I’ve gotten fed up with being on edge for weeks waiting for my period to come. Pregnancy worries me more than disease, though that’s an additional factor. I don’t like the pill as it seemed to make me depressed and because I smoke like chimney. I also don’t have sex often enough to make it worth the effort.
Yes, condoms are inconvenient, interrupt the flow etc. However, for me personally (i.e. I’m not criticising anyone else’s choices) that small hiccup is worth the weeks of peace of mind afterward where I have the knowledge that my chances of pregnancy are slim and if it did happen I would feel I had been unlucky rather than stupid. And any guy who thinks I’m worth sleeping with shouldn’t mind too much either.
Oddly enough, the only condom that’s ever broken on me was a Durex Avanti. Don’t know why. Maybe it’s because we were standing up.
I dunno – “It’ll go to waste if I don’t use it soon” isn’t as bad as some other pickup lines. 
This reminds me of a possibly apocryphal story about a maintenance guy who was spray-treating the innards of a building, and bought a gross of condoms to cover the light sockets (he’d counted them from the plans, and knew that he’d need exactly that many).
However, the package was one short of the advertised total, so he called the store to complain.
There was a long silence at the other end, and finally the reply, “I’m sorry… hope it didn’t ruin your weekend.”
ROFLMAO.
Anyone else ever have the experience of buying condoms along with other merchandise and getting weird looks from the cashier trying to figure out the connection?
-“Hmm… fishing lures and a 12-pack of Trojans?”
-“Hmm… brake grease and…”
-“Hmm… [insert your own]”
Yeah…how about the time I was buying condoms and a pregnancy test. That one got some interesting looks.