This may sound silly, but after watching talk shows, other tv programs, if people are going to cheat, WHY CANT THEY USE CONDOMS! I mean, ‘aww god damn havin’ anotha’ baby, how in hell deed that happen’.
Is it stupidity? Is it expense? I mean, this goes beyond cheating; its just stupid cheating in my opinon.
Is there an actual reason, or some research into this? 
On Friends, Ross impregnanted Rachel even with a condom on, they are not 100%. Furthermore, sometimes when a man and a woman are really really horny they do things very quickly and spontaneously. Like have sex.
And as we all know, Friends is a completely realistic portrayal of life.
This might be a stupid question, but if ejaculate gets out of a condom, doesn’t the couple know it when they take off the condom and look at it? If fluid is coming out of it, can’t you see that? The reason I ask is that I have always used condoms for birth control and I have always tied them in a knot afterwards before disposing. I always examine them to see if they are holding the ejaculate and that makes me feel safe. I figure that if there is any problem with the condom, I will go to the doctor. Whenever someone says a condom failed I wonder whether I’m naive and ignorant or they are.
You might not notice a microscopic hole that’s quite large enough for sperm to get through (it only takes one!). The latex does break down after a while, especially if it’s been stored under non-ideal conditions like a wallet.
There’s a perception for some young women that carrying condoms with them is “slutty.” The idea of preparing to have sex is distasteful-- they’d rather sex be something that just happens . . . that they were overwhelmed by the heat of the moment. This is especially true with cheating. Buying condoms would signify intent.
When someone says the condom “failed” my first thought is they probably didn’t even use one. But that’s just me.
Barring a disastrous, through-no-fault-of-their-own birth control failure, when people I know “accidentally” get pregnant (cheating or no) I think “well you must not have been that concerned about getting pregnant.”
In two years, I managed to get pregnant three times. The first time I was on the Pill. I was put on some antibiotics, which gave me diarrhea, and the hormones didn’t stay in my system long enough to do their job. I was not informed that this might happen when the antibiotics were prescribed for me. I was living in Spain at the time, as an Air Force wife, and most of the doctors were Spanish doctors, who pretty much followed the Catholic Church’s teachings on birth control. I don’t know if the doctor who prescribed the antibiotic didn’t know that it might have this side effect, or if he just didn’t want to tell me. My second pregnancy (which resulted in a live birth, the other two were miscarriages) was a result of using foam and condoms TOGETHER. The condom broke, but the foam should have taken care of it, right? Well, it didn’t. So now I have a daughter. The third time I got pregnant, I had an IUD in place. It was still in place after I had my second miscarriage. I just happened to be one of the women who experienced a failure with the IUD.
After all this, I abstained from sex until I could get my tubes tied. This was very hard on my husband and me, but I just couldn’t risk getting pregnant again. I had gestational diabetes and pre-eclampsia/toxemia with my daughter, and I would probably get those problems again if I got pregnant. I had a hell of a time convincing a doctor that I really, really DID want my tubes tied before I was even 25. Most doctors tended to figuratively pat me on my head and say “There, there, you’ll change your mind and want more babies later on.” Nope, I never did. I finally managed to find a doctor who would tie my tubes, but I had to get my husband’s PERMISSION for this!
My marriage has never really recovered from the trauma of all those pregnancies and having to go through all that nonsense about getting permission to get my tubes tied. We’re still together, but we still are not happy about these things.
As for the question posed by the OP, many people feel that carrying a condom around or otherwise having a birth control plan is proof that you’re planning to cheat or have sex or whatever, and it’s not as romantic as getting swept away. Also, when one is in the throes of passion, it’s very hard to break off to make a run to the drugstore and get some rubbers. Even putting a condom on is a break in the natural rhythm of sex. Let’s not even talk about putting in foam or a diaphragm or something. It can be done, but it takes a mature person to do so, even when the blood is running hot. And frankly, there are WAY too many immature people having sex. Always have been, and probably always will be.
My brothers girlfriend became pregnant after being on the pill, she was also taking St Johns Wort at the time (before it was publiscised that it can cancel out the pill) so was taken by complete surprise when she missed her period. After much soul searching she decided to terminate the pregnancy as she (obviousley) didn’t want to be pregnant in the first place. Having said that I would hazard a guess that most unwanted pregnancies are down to people being irresponsible, I just wanted to point out that even with proper precaustions accidents can still happen.
Imagine how embarassed you would have been as a teenager to buy condoms. I did it once (never used 'em, but I had a box just in case) and I about DIED. That’s a terrible reason, but it’s probably true for some. Somebody else already brought up the being-prepared-means-you-WANT-sex-which-is-a-bad-thing idea. Personally, I couldn’t get swept away in the heat of the moment without being properly prepared – which means, for me, pills (or some other hormonal form of BC, I haven’t used any others) AND a condom. I’m not too fond of condoms but I’m not taking chances, either.
Then you have the unfortunate people like my friend whose beautiful daughter was concieved after her mom’s first Depo shot. Oooops!
I always took it the other way. Buying condoms = getting laid = SEEEXXX-SAY.
I was pretty proud to buy them, actually.
Why assume that? Condoms certainly do break (scroll down to “Myths about condoms”), even if it’s often due to human error. Then again, I’ve been witness to condom breakage where everyone involved was following proper condom procedure. Even if the failure rate is below 2% in the US, there’s no reason to doubt that the people experiencing that failure rate are still trying to use the things. And 2% is not a number that cheers me if I’m trying to avoid things as life-changing as pregnancy or AIDS.
Now, getting the incriminating balloon smell out of the bedroom/car/parent’s rec room, that’s got a 100% failure rate. 
The ballon smell? I’d be more concerned about the just had sweaty sex smell…
I’m just picturing a couple laying there panting, when one of them says “c’mon then, let’s look at the condom!” - sort of spoils the moment a bit.
If the failure is not catastrophic, it might not be noticeable, the contents are quite… you know… viscous and so a pin-sized hole might not leak unless the thing was under… sort of… pressure or… ahem… agitation.
It’s so much easier now – they sell them on open shelves, which truly cuts down on the embarassment potential (you and the person at checkout will just pretend they’re something else and say nothing).
Back in my day, they were kept behind the counter. You had the ask the druggist for them. And it was particularly hard when you live in a small town and the druggist is a friend of your parents. I had to go to another town to buy them.
I believe I’ve seen that most of the time, condom failure is just a name for people not being careful about how they put them on (breakage is extremely rare). There was also a study showing the older couples had fewer failures than younger ones, probably because they were more careful about how they used them.
I don’t think that you’re the only one who thinks that, but you are, in at least some cases, wrong.
I am an AWB, and back in the good old days (before my passion was quenched, my soul shredded, and my hope crushed) I had sex quite often. I had one girlfriend with whom condoms regularly ripped. I mean a latex ring at the bottom, and a ripped strip of latex hanging off of that. Regularly.
It was different brands, and there was no lack of lubrication, no excessive tightness, etc etc. To this day, I still think it’s something weird to do with her body Ph or something.
As for the OP, I think it’s a matter of the oldest fallacious thinking in the book: It won’t happen to ME.
Of course, while I’ve never dated anyone like this, I’ve known women friends (and especially women friends of women friends) whose attitude toward any sort of non-vaginal sex was “Eeew. I ain’t doing that.” Interestingly enough, those tended to be the typical accidentally getting pregnant.
Add to that the fact that we’re selectively breeding out personal responsibility (due to and via birth control)…it will just keep getting worse.
*Average White Boy
-Joe, sexual camel
Let’s not be afraid to call a spade a spade. Sex with a condom just isn’t as pleasuarable as sex with a condom. Is that a good enough reason to risk pregnancy or an STD? Of course not, but typically the point at which such a decision must be made is one at which clear-headedness isn’t at a premium.
–Cliffy
Yeah true, but in my opinion, sex with a person for the first time reallly isn’t as good as having sex with someone you love. You have to be comfortable around the person. If you are nervous or whatever like you always are on the first time, then a condom is no big deal to me. I don’t know but I am really scared of getting a girl pregnant, so I am extra careful with condoms and I usually pull out before I even ejaculate with one on anyway. I never have sex twice because after I do ejaculate I don’t want to have any risk of it coming out the side or something like that. Its never a perfect seal, IMO. My girlfriend was on the pill for about two years and she got off so we had to go to condoms. I was scared at first, but we went for a couple of months having sex with condoms and I got used to it. We broke up afterwards for completely unrelated reasons.
True, at least I didn’t have to ask for them. But I was plenty embarassed anyway. I probably still would be, just a bit, but in my last (and so far only) relationship involving sex he provided them. In the future, who knows? I guess it’ll depend on the guy.
Merk (forgive me for shortening it!), you shouldn’t be using the same condom for more than one session anyway. So you have sex, you take a break, you have sex again, using a new one the second time. Then you don’t have to worry about…um…overflow.