I am watching a Jeopardy episode and a line from a song comes up from “You’ve lost that loving feeling” about how she doesn’t close her eyes anymore when they kiss.
Hell, I have never closed my eyes when kissing a woman. I want to see who I am kissing. I mean it’s a limited vision, so close. I was never taught how to kiss, I just did what came naturally the first time I had a chance.And now a memory flashes back, a girl I was kissing commented on how I wasn’t closing my eyes. Have I been doing it wrong all these years? I don’t think so, I have been complimented many times on how I kiss.
And in the context of the song, if she closes her eyes, maybe she is thinking of someone else. The lyric is backwards
Yes, I always close my eyes when kissing someone. I couldn’t tell you if it was a natural thing to do so, or a learned habit, but I do think that it’s a cultural norm, at least in the U.S.
And, if your kissing partners do close their eyes, they wouldn’t generally know if you keep your eyes open when you kiss, would they?
I think I’ve done it maybe once or twice for a couple seconds, then closed 'em again. I remember doing it once when being silly with the girlfriend - I mean, it just seems weird to be an inch from someone, staring them intensely the eye. Are you making out or trying to win a staring contest? For me, it’s more a laughable thing than hot.
To me, closing my eyes when I kiss is such an integral part of the act that if I keep my eyes open, it feels like some kind of a semi-detached experiment instead of an intimate moment.
Now it’s been a while. A long while admittedly. But I always closed my eyes without even thinking about it. I remember once long ago, opening them to see if the girl was looking at me but her eyes were closed too. I shut mine right up again.
As said up above by TRC, it’s just automatic.
It depends, casual greeting kisses on the cheek with friends/relatives (back when visiting was a thing) are mostly eyes open, partly because I really don’t want to accidentally poke their face with the corners of my glasses frame. But intimate kisses are almost always eyes closed, and usually my glasses are off by that point.
An ol’ sweetie of mine hated meeting gazes, because it created a “cyclops” illusion. She said it squicked her out. I like gazing deeply into a sweetie’s eyes, but I’ll certainly respect other – um – viewpoints.
It seems like I heard or read somewhere that that the tactile sensation from kissing (or other intimate acts) can cause a sort of sensory overload in many people. And their instinctive reaction to this is to close their eyes, to eliminate the visual stimulus from the equation, and focus on the tactile stimulus.
I always close my eyes during a kiss on the lips. Keeping the eyes open has two big downsides: 1) What I can see of the guy’s face is distorted and 2) I can’t concentrate on the most important part, the way it feels. Kissing is not a visual sport.
