My BF is a bartender at a gay bar (he’s bi, so he finds all the attention flattering rather than oogy). The bar itself is actually 2 bars, a gay bar in front and a straight bar in the back. Now, it used to be reversed, and the straight bar was up front, and was also a package liquor store.
I was hanging out there one day (all his regulars think I’m his lesbian roommate, he gets better tips if they think he’s single and totally gay. Worst part- they all guessed the “lesbian” part without him telling them. Does wonders for my self-esteem :rolleyes: ) when 2 guys walked in, looked around confused, and asked the BF where the liquor store was. He replied “Next door in the straight bar.” All of the regulars in both bars know that there’s the gay bar and the straight bar, so referring to the other bar as the straight bar is normal. The two guys start to walk next door, snickering “I guess this must be the snort gay bar.”
He told me of another guy, a jerkish redneck type who started to sense the gaiety and get uncomfortable and assholish. BF banished him to the straight bar by telling him they served Pabst Blue Ribbon next door, and maybe he’d be more comfortable there.
Now, there’s only one entrance to the gay bar (from the outside- there’s a door connecting the two bars). As soon as you walk in the bar, there’s a column about 2 feet in front of you that you must dodge. It’s got a large (probably 3 feet long) rainbow flag on it right at eye level. There’s also another flag on the door to the straight bar. It’s hard to miss. Not to mention the artistic black and white male nudes in various locations.
I told these stories to a friend, who replied that rainbow = gay isn’t universally known among the straight population. I find this hard to believe, unless you live in a total backwater town in the Bible belt.
So, do you know that rainbow means gay? Is it common knowledge among your friends and family, or only among those with connections to the gay community? I’m pretty sure I knew about it sometime in middle school. Hell, even the septagenarian at my old work knew it.
I’ll admit, my perception may be off. I have gay friends, I live in a gay-owned (and populated) apartment building, and now my BF works at a gay bar. But I still thought it was pretty common knowledge.