I’ll take slightly reserved. But a spine, personality, and some level of confidence all need to be in there too.
Actually I just like men. If I have to crawl into a corner to go talk with them, that works too.
I LOVE shy men. The love of my life is a shy guy. I think non-shy men act a little too egotistical, which is a major turn-off.
Oh sure. But if you’re like your namesake, it’ll take you all frickin’ play to get around to it! 
I didn’t think I did, but apparently I do.
I like quieter guys, who don’t talk all big and act like they’re all that. Also, as Honey said, they’re even better if geeky and glasses wearing. Not dorky, mind you, but geeky.
However, I do know one gorgeous guy (named Shannon, strangely enough–even weirder because he’s Asian) who will not talk to girls. Never. I’ve known him for three years and I’ve heard his voice maybe three times. We don’t hang out or anything, but he never talks in the classes I have with him.
Another vote in favor of shy guys!! And geeky ones! Especially with loooooong hair… sigh (sorry, got carried away).
When I met my husband (shy, self-described geek, looooong hair) I definitely had to make the first move. Which was unusual for me, because I’m rather shy myself.
Anyway, shy guys out there–take heart! You do have fans!
Actually, it seems like the confident ones need encouragement right now.
Ten or eleven for shy guys, and… none who specifically say they prefer confident guys. But there are a couple who don’t mind them, though they’re in the “anything with chest hair and testicles” category ;).
I’m a shy boi in love with a shy boi… that may be the way to go 
I like shy guys, but I also like energetic and open guys. What I really don’t like are people who are all too conscious of what everyone thinks about them (which can be the case either way). People who hold back and hide their personalities because they can’t be themselves in front of other people bug me, as do people who put on a big fake show. It’s not a problem to be shy and quiet, as long as you’re still yourself. Same said for loud boisterous…
Heh, as a shy guy, I must say, approaching women is probably the toughest part. Any smart woman knows what you’re doing from a mile away. I can’t stand that. I just want things to evolve organically…ack.
I prefer reserved to shy, but shy is ok too. It seems more special if a guy will open up to you when he doesn’t share everything with the world at large.
A guy who’s talking loudly about himself in the middle of the room doesn’t really leave a lot of mystery, ya know?
Mr. Salads quote
- away. I can’t stand that. I just want things to evolve organically…ack.
I thought if you quoted Bill the Cat you would be automatically booted off and banned. It’s in the rules somewhere because he’s copyrighted. Does this mean I can quote Madonna about her problem with shyness ?
The trick is to get the shy guy together with a shy girl this is very difficult but I still have hope.
No. No, this doesn’t mean I like obnoxious “tough guys” either. Pleasantly social and definitely NOT shy will suffice. I am also partial to four-eyed men, particularly if they’re tall, and *especially[i/] if they laugh at my lame jokes. I am not shy and do not take well to shy people. “Loud and brash” is bad, shy is even worse. I’ll take somewhere in the middle.
That’s some pretty lame coding there. Whoops.
Dude, if you were looking for validation of outgoing guys, you put the wrong title on the thread. “Do You Like Shy Guys?” is naturally going to attract the women who do, and repel the women who don’t, aside from those who wander in out of curiousity.
While I occasionally can be “the life of the party” when I’m really “up”, usually I’m one of those guys sitting back and taking it all in, and making the occasional joke. And, the larger the group, the less likely you are to hear from me. I much prefer small groups or one-on-one situations. It takes me a while to get comfortable with people, and that’s hard to do in a large group. I guess this makes me reserved?
OK, I’ve been sitting here and listening to this discussion, and even contributed a few inane comments. There seems to be a sizeable majority of women who actually like shy guys, and even the glasses-wearing geeky ones.
I have to call bullshit on this one. As a glasses-wearing shy geek, I can safely say that I have NEVER had a woman approach me with anything like interest. Any such approaches have been made by me, at great emotional cost, and almost always to no avail. Maybe there are women out there who really like shy guys, but I’ll bet anything they are vastly outnumbered by us shy guys, which doesn’t improve our odds at all (well, maybe a little, but they are still miniscule.)
I’d contribute, but I’m too shy to speak up… 
But seriously, folks…I think Payne N. Diaz’s post speaks the real truth about the matter. Seriously, I don’t know where all you girls allegedly ga-ga for shy guys have been hiding away… - Jinx
Well maybe you’re just ugly… or maybe the women who claim to like shy guys are shy too. At any rate, I don’t think the majority of women who’ve posted on this thread represent the majority of women in general. Almost all the femmes I know say BOOOOO to shy guys. Now men in glasses, I can get into. :D:D:D:D So long ss they’re not shy.
Thank you, Jinx !
Certainly not in my home town…