I go through times when I’m good about making my bed and times when I’m not very good. I have no idea what is really considered normal bed-making expectation, though. So what about you? Do you make the bed? No? What are your reasons, either way? Do you think it’s important? Does it affect your opinion of others (for example, an SO?)
For me, I think it makes the room look tidier, plus it keeps the bedding straightened and less likely to tie around me in knots at night, so I really do like it better when I’m being good about it. Currently I’ve been rather bad about it, but I think that’s largely because the floor on one side of my bed is kind of inaccessible right now, which makes it harder to do.
I didn’t, for years – decades – but started a couple of years ago as a mental health measure. It makes the room look tidier, which is good for my morale.
Technically in our house, whoever gets out of bed last has to make the bed. At least somewhat. Since Samson the dog is always the last out of bed that hasn’t been working so well for us. I try to show him how to do it, just about every morning, and when husband is up last, he tries to show him. He’s just not getting it. Stupid puppy.
I will do it every day for a week and then, one day, suddenly, I don’t, for whatever reason and I get kinda lazy about it. But I prefer to walk in to the room and see it made, especially now in my new place, and so I will make it. It helps that my bed is no longer up against a wall - because then it was hard to make and i had a lot of bruised knuckles so I would often not make it.
I’m not fanatical about tucking everything in or anything - but I do pull the sheet comforter up and make sure it’s smooth and arrange the pillows with my overly-flattened teddy bear in the middle. (Why yes, I do sleep with a teddy bear.)
And, for the record, I will always make my bed if I’m expecting company - even if it’s not *that *type of company.
As for whether or not it affects me to walk in to someone else’s house and see it unmade, it depends. First time in the place and they know I’m coming over? Yeah, I expect it to be made and some semblance of cleaning to have occurred. Coming over to my bf’s house after dating him for 2 years? I’d be surprised to find it made. I know that he changes his sheets regularly so I’m not disgusted by it at all. I just know that’s the way he is. Sometimes, when he has to work and I’m the last one to leave, I might make up his bed before I go. But sometimes I’m just as guilty of not making a bed as anyone else.
Pretty much never. I make my bed when I change the sheets. When I moved most recently, I did it daily for about a week or so because I have a studio-type space and I wanted to be neat in case anyone came over. Didn’t last long, obviously.
I put “never”, though I guess whenever I wash and change my sheets it’s technically made for at least a few minutes. My mother was a militant bed-maker when I was growing up, and it was always something I resented. I haven’t made mine regularly since I was in college and my bed was part of my main living space.
I don’t see the point. I often just pull up the covers haphazardly and leave it at that. Or I just leave it the way it is when I get up. I’m the only one who sees it.
Are we drawing a distinction between “making the bed” and “straightening out the sheets and cover(s)”? Because if there is a difference, then I don’t know that I’ve ever truly “made the bed” outside of washing and changing the sheets.
I don’t see the point. Those of you who say “I know I should” I’d be interested in hearing the “why” of it. And yes, those who said, “because I like to see it that way” have a perfectly legitimate reason. But I just don’t get it, personally.
I’ve known people for whom this is actually a matter of principle - as if you can’t be a completely good person unless you are doing it each day. The whole thing escapes me, and I’d love it if y’all would explain more.
I think that tucking, etc. isn’t necessary* to consider the bed ‘made,’ but it has to be more than just pulling the covers up. I.e., there has to be an attempt made to get the thing squared and flat, pillows in the right place, etc.
*or in my case, desirable. I like the stuff tucked in at the feet only (and sometimes not even that, in summer) but can’t stand covers tucked into the sides of the bed, thus I never do.
Mom always made her bed, but that was because her bedroom was visible in every house we lived in when I was growing up – it was always right off the living room. She didn’t like to close doors, so she kept the bed made up.
Mine’s upstairs, so it doesn’t get made unless we’re having overnight guests.
I pull the top sheet and the comforter up over the pillows. I don’t consider that “making the bed” really. If company is coming or if overnight people are coming, then I tuck everything in and put the shams and decorative stuff on it - otherwise those sit in a chair.
I also have 2 blankets I put over the top of the bed, each covers about 2/3 of it. I have to do this or it’s a guarantee that at least one of my cats will puke on the comforter or on the sheets. The blankets are smaller and far easier to wash rather than having to take the big comforter to the front-loader laundromat. Plus, when shaking out the blankets and throwing them over the bed - my youngest cat really loves to run underneath them and reminds me of when I played “parachute” in gym class when I was a kid. This game has happened daily for the past 6 months and hasn’t gotten old yet. He’s so much fun.
I’m almost always up before my wife (she’s usually still in bed when I leave for work). I have made the bed, if she’s out of town or I sleep late on a weekend, but it’s very rare.
