…i think it is kind of hilarious (and please don’t take this the wrong way), but we are all ( including myself) posting back and forth about the subject… when this could be time spend replying to the person who sent you a text, email or phone call. Kudos to Digs. Also, I actually have to work…so I do get it that one doesn’t always have the time right here and then to respond. Lol.
You are assuming that there always is a reason - part of my point is that there often isn’t a specific reason and it just happens. If my best friend from grade school was to contact me and ask me why I lost touch with her , I wouldn’t be able to answer the question. And if I asked her, she most likely wouldn’t be able to answer either because certainly on my side and probably on her side it wasn’t an intentional act with a specific reason.
Note, however, that digs’ friends weren’t angry at the long pause with no contact; they appear to have considered that entirely normal behavior.
It actually seems to me in this thread that you’re having a great deal of trouble in seeing other people’s perspectives.
You’re the one who said we’re talking about “everyone.”
It is just plain not possible to talk about reasonable expectations for frequency of contact as if those were the same for all possible relationships. Because they are not the same for all possible relationships.
How is this form of communication different and automatically of less importance than replying to a text, email, or phone call?
People have fallen in and out of my life all the time. It never occurred to me that they owed me any information.
But thinking they mean every single person on earth is disingenuous.
The obvious answer is that we’re just strangers discussing a topic, not people who are in any form of relationship with each other. In fact, you don’t seem to particularly like them.
I’d actually argue that a lot of this conversation is based on a generational gap. We’ve have discussions before on how we tend to see texts as optional to respond to, while youngest generations don’t. We now live in a more connected world, so it makes sense there may be more expectation that we keep in touch in all our relationships.
I also suspect there’s an introvert/extravert dichotomy going on here. Introverts tend to be more okay with not talking with friends for a more extended period of time than extraverts. I’ve noticed before that it’s easier to casually fall out of a friendship with an extravert, as they seem to expect more contact than I am willing to give. In my mind, we’ll still be decently close, while they will have moved on.
Don’t get me wrong. I suspect @csy_mckenzie is pushing the boundaries on this too far. They likely have a specific person they are upset with, and are likely quite young, where that sort of thing is a much bigger deal even without the generational divide. (Teens of all generations put way more emphasis on social contact.)
But I don’t think what they are saying is without merit. I know I could do well to not just drift out of contact. I know that it’s silly for me to be upset that someone hasn’t contacted me when I also haven’t contacted them.