I have a friend who’s SO keeps running in and out of her life. He stays with her for awhile, until they have a fight and then he disappears for a week, two weeks or more.
She doesn’t think so, but I think there’s another woman involved. On several occaisions I’ve seen him around town with a woman other than my friend. How do I tell her about this without losing her as a friend?
Have any of you ever had a man do this kind of thing before whether or not there was another woman involved? If so, did you ever find out what was going on and how did it all turn out?
Problem is that, is you don’t have actual proof. Just because you’ve seen him around town with other women doesn’t prove anything. Last time I checked, guys are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex.
Granted, this guy sounds like an a-hole. The best you can do is point out how she’s being treated like shit without getting preachy. I don’t know how much that will do though. Women tend to be stubborn about the people the supposedly love. It’s going to be pretty hard to see how he’s treating her when she’s on the in and can’t see it herself. Otherwise, don’t get involved too much and be there when she finally realises what a jerk he is.
Regardless if another woman is involved, the guy has a problem. In fact, so does the woman to allow this guy to trivalize the relationship by disappearing for a week.
If the woman wants a life with this guy, she needs to get used to this. However, if she wants a one-woman man who is home, has a mature attitude and desires the same as she does, then she needs to grow up herself, make a decision, give the creep an ultimatum and follow through.
If someone keep rubbing mud into the doormat, he has a problem. If she keeps acting like the doormat, she has a problem.