For me, an object is always required. It could be an actual woman I know, a movie star, porn actress, etc. If I know the person is dead, it’s not as preferable. There has to be the physical possibility of the event actually happening, regardless of how improbable.
On the other hand, others I know have non-real objects: An old friend from high school recently mentioned Jessica Rabbit when asked the question. And I know of people into “furries”, and I’ve obviously heard about bestiality, necrophilia, etc.
But are there people that don’t require any object at all, meaning that physical stimulation is all they need, with no object at all in mind?
Can’t remember when I started masturbating, but I suspect it was a lot later than boys do, maybe 11? Also can’t remember when I read Nancy Friday’s My Secret Garden, anywhere between 14-20.
It seems like a long time between the two events, but time takes so much longer the younger you are.
“My Secret Garden” is a compilation of women’s sexual fantasies. Somewhere, probably in the introduction, she states something along the lines of “masturbating without a fantasy is the loneliest thing imaginable”. It rocked my world. It had never occurred to me to add a fantasy, but then I had a whole book of them.
So until then, no “object”, after then, almost always with a fantasy, only occasionally not, but then, no orgasm.
Having had this conversation with a couple of people, I’m willing to bet that this breaks down along gender lines- men are much more likely to need an object of some kind. I fit in with that, by the way.
Hm. So you jerk off to the idea of you jerking off? :dubious: You conceited bastard.
When I read the title of this thread, I thought it was referring to an actual object. Like a vibrator or some such. Which I suppose is why you used quotes.
Btw- I am a girl, and I have to be thinking of something. That can be annoying.
Oh it’s NICE and adds some spice (heck I was fantasizing long before I thought to touch myself while doing so… man that was frustrating but so… tantalizing), but I don’t find it absolutely necessary.
Back in the '80s, National Lampoon did a spoof of Penthouse. In their pictorial (such as it was), they included this “quote” from the model (paraphrasing from memory):
“Sometimes it just makes me come when I think about a guy coming over a picture of me pretending to come!”
Hmmm yes, an old girl-friend introduced me to that book. Before that it was the letters section of a Penthouse magazine, and before that it was some erotic books that I found in my mother’s book shelf. I’m certain though that there was a period of time when I masturbated without knowing exactly what was happening. There was no object then. Now days it is much as the OP says.
I don’t need help from fantasies, but then I am very pro-sex. I only recently started adding fantasies, but it doesn’t seem to make it any better. I’m either totally blank or just thinking about my filthy lily-gilding woman self most of the time
It depends. Are you using it because it was just the most convenient “assistance” device around, or are you envisioning actually having sex with the doll?
