The fact that he is at work doesnt prove anything. Ever hear of nooners? People do that all the time. He could be getting sex from a prostitute instead of you. However I wouldn’t assume it is cheating just yet. I would get to the bottom (bad pun, I know) of the “sex only from behind” thing and no kissing. Depression could answer the kissing thing, but not the doggie style thing. Maybe you just have a great looking ass?
Depression or just plain being in a rut happens very easily. Being on a computer all the time doesnt help either.
Being on the computer all the time is certainly one way to keep distance. Added to that, there’s opportunity for cybering or at the very least, indepth conversations.
One possibility is that he’s been conversing with someone online who he now feels he is in love with (a possibility, I have no idea, of course). It can be easier to reveal your feelings to someone online. The drawback is that it is taking away from the intimacy between you two.
There is absolutely no evidence he’s cheating on her, and since she rules it out as a possibility, I thinkwe should, too.
Geez. People won’t want to come here for advice anymore… we just make them more paranoid!
It took almost 2 days and several glasses of wine to respond to this post. Please don’t take anything too personally but, What the hell!! No kiss in 5 months, won’t let you you face him when making love (This is not “making love”, by the way, this is fucking.)
Screw up every bit of courage you have and kick his ass out the door, your true love may be out there waiting for you but you’ll never know because you are waiting for some sign of love from this selfish swine.
Oh, by the way, never, ever love someone more than life itself.
Please send me an e-mail if you need to, your story really touches me, I’ve been there.
Honey.
True, but that’s why this particular forum is called In My Humble Opinion. People are giving their opinions and educated guesses (like mine) on her particular situation.
I just want to hear what happens after she speaks with her boyfriend and I hope for the best.
One thing I haven’t seen anyone mention is that perhaps he is just not interested in you anymore, but is too much of a coward to break up. Guys can be that way. We know that we will make you cry, and normal guys would rather do just about anything than make a girl cry. What a lot of guys do is act like a total asshole until the girl leaves.
Women don’t take rejection well (no one does, I know…) and to many it is inconceivable that a man could actually not want to be with her at all anymore, particularly if she still wants him. And we are weak about it. We will always give in to the “giving it another chance” thing, though we aren’t sincere about it and we know we should be strong and end it now. The old phrase “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” is applicable as well. We can be scared of what might happen by telling you we want to end it. We know that we will always be wrong, even if we are doing the right thing. We will be assholes for leading you on for so long, when to us we were just holding on hoping it would get better. A woman I work with recently had a boyfriend break up with her and all the other women were calling him asshole, cocksucker, and everything you can imagine. Now I understand taking her side and being supportive and all, but still…I couldnt resist and opined that what should he have done? He sat down with her, explained to her that he just didn’t feel “in love” with her, and that he felt they should go their separate ways. She believed they were headed for marriage, and when he realized he didn’t feel the same way he ended the relationship.
Perhaps your man has been down this road before and has learned that the only way to ever make a clean break from you is for YOU to do the breakup and believe it is your idea.
All right, I’ll say it…
It sounds to me like you want to give yourself to someone who will show you lots of affection. I’m sorry, but this guy doesn’t sound like he’s the one. Whatever relationship you have with him will be a compromise at best.
I’m a settle down sort myself, but I advise that you keep looking. You know more about yourself than you did when you met him. Based on what little I’ve read here, you should be able to find someone better.
You seem a little insecure with yourself and afraid to reach out for what you want. I hope that you can find someone who will love you for these things instead of using them as an excuse to be lazy.