I have been seeing a guy, for a while now. He is not my boy friend but we spend a lot of time together.
Problem is he refuses to kiss me. Don’t get me wrong we have done everything else but kiss.
I’m 22 and he is 24, and he says he doesn’t kiss because he did it so much in high school that he got tired of it.
How do people get tired of kissing. I’m desperate, we have had many arguments over the issue and I don’t want to just go ahead and kiss him cause he obviously doesn’t want to and I don’t want to feel like I’m disrespecting him.
I feel we are in the movie pretty women except he’s the prostitute and I’m just the girl, since he won’t kiss.
What can I do???
I mean is he just afraid of getting emotionally attached if he kisses me? or could he be BI.
I mean a guy at his age should be more mature about things.
Well please help this is really bothering me.
He could be bisexual, but that has no bearing on whether or not he’d kiss you. :rolleyes:
His “i’m sick of kissing” excuse is bullshit. If you’ve “done everything else but kiss,” it sounds like he’s using you for sex. Kissing is symbolic of a caring relationship, which he clearly isn’t interested in. Welcome to the douchebag end of casual sex.
You say he’s not your boyfriend, but I don’t think you’ve fully come to terms with that. If you want a boyfriend, get a boyfriend. If you want a fuckbuddy, don’t be surprised if they don’t want to do things that would give you legitimate reason to think they want a deep, meaningful emotional connection with you.
26 y/o male here. I agree, it sounds like he is using you.
I’ve got to admit my girlfriend drives me a little crazy with kissing. It seems like she wants to kiss every 5 minutes. I’m not against it, but it gets kind of annoying to kiss every time we pass each other in the hall/sit down/change the channel on tv/get in the car/etc…
I mean this with all due respect –seriously- but might it be a question of bad breath? As in yours perhaps.
Just a thought. Evidently there are folks walking around with nary a thought that their exhalations could –what’s the expression?—knock a buzzard off of a shit wagon.
Really. Some weeks ago my wife and I were out and about and both noticed the occasion waft of a dank, shit-smelling reek. We determined it was some guy a full ten feet away from us casually chatting it up with his companion. We had no idea how either could tolerate such an existence. But I digress.
Again I am not trying to be an ass but it’s worth at least a cursory consideration.
How long have you been dating? And what does “everything else but kiss” entail? As in, sex? I often jump to strange conclusions, so take this with a grain of salt, but… Were I in the same situation, I’d wonder if maybe he has an active STD (like herpes).
One way or the other, he’s using you. Find someone else.
I don’t really like kissing. Never have. I don’t refuse to ever do it or anything, but it’s really not my thing, no matter how much I like the guy and find him attractive. So I don’t think it NECESSARILY means he’s just using you or not really attracted to you or the stuff everyone’s saying. But it does seem odd he wouldn’t just do it occasionally, since he knows you want to.
Dump him. It’s actually a common form of emotional abuse to use your body for sex, but refuse any affectionate touching. I’m betting he’s not much of a cuddler either - or only when it’s what he wants. He’s keeping you desperate for what you want while getting his own wants fulfilled. Disgusting.