Yup. I try not to do it, and I also try not to beat myself up too much over it - things happen.
Usually it does, unless I don’t like the person. One example was with a medicine resident when I was in vet school. She was very sarcastic and petty. Several months after I finished my rotation with her, we were at a house party. Somebody brought this disgusting garlic potato dip. I made a remark on how gross it was, but it turned out that she was the one who made it. She said, “I don’t appreciate people insulting my food,” or something like that. It was sweet (but unintentional) revenge.
I did this a day before Thanksgiving, when I said that I did not like pickle relish and that i do not like pickle relish, nor raw onion in my deviled eggs.
She whined that “it hurts me” and “that i hurt her” when I had said that. This is a person who likes to micromanages and always has to have something to complain about.
I wish I could give a damn but I don’t. I have some likes and dislikes but i don’t think i am super-picky but man i HATE pickles. I’ve never had sweet potatoes with marshmallow. I don’t know that I dislike it but I am not keen to try it. Mom has a recipe for fresh sweet potatoes that she bakes for an hour with a glaze and those are just sweet enough.
It bothers me a lot when I hurt someone’s feeling unintentionally. I try to finely craft my put-downs so that the person knows I am intentionally targeting them – to incur bad feelings unintentionally is wasteful and counter-productive.
At least one person in the thread has said that s/he doesn’t object to hurting the feelings of others unintentionally if s/he’s morally in the right.