Does my BF want me to tell him that I love him?

In My Humble Opinion
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I know this is a bit 5th grade, but i’ll go ahead and ask. I’m just looking for opinions, I know no one out there knows what he is thinking.

About 2 months ago, I met this guy. We have been on 9 dates so far and things are looking good. I honestly think he is “the one”. Although we have slept together a few times, we’ve never had sex. (this is something we both decided on, we want to wait for a while). We talk almost every day and see each other on the weekends. Two weekends ago, we were together and I was apparently thinking some heavy thoughts, because he asked me, “what are you thinking?”. I replied that I was just thinking that i hoped we found a good parking spot at our destination. He said, 'bull, that’s not really what you were thinking". He was right, I was thinking that I was madly in love with him. He has asked me that same question a few times during the past few weeks.

Saying those words (I love you) has always been very hard for me, even if I feel love for someone. Those words simply weren’t spoken in my family. At 41, I should be over that, but I’m not. He has told me that I Love You was not said a lot when he was a kid either.

Last Sunday, I made a CD for him (Kevin) The CD consisted of dance music, but all of the songs followed a very specific theme. Love/being in love.

Kevin called me today and while chatting he told me that he loved the CD I made for him. I was a bit surprised that he called since he was at work and normally didn’t call me when he was there. He then asked me if there were any hidden meanings in those songs. To my delight, he was at work and got a call that he had to take, so I never got the chance to reply.

Truth is, I specifically selected each song on that CD with Kevin in mind. He is going to call me later and now I’m wondering what I should say. I don’t want to scare him, but I sense that he feels the same way and just wants me to say it first.

Eric

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Play the card.

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It’s never a bad day when someone tells you they love you…

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I’m no romantic, but I think this is one of those instances where you’ll just blurt it out eventually. I’ve never been an ‘I love you’ type (at least not to people. I’m constantly saying it to animals, delicious food, postmen who bring me cheques, etc.), and I don’t think anything significant changed in my relationship when it was said. I’m pretty sure it was after a fight.

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OP here. I just realized something. I told Kevin my story about my best friend telling me that he loved me and that upon further discussion, found that he meant the romantic kind of love. I told Kevin that I told my friend that that wasn’t cool, since we were best friends and best friends who were both in relationships (at the time) shouldn’t say that sort of thing.

A few days after I told Kevin my story, we were talking about sex and if it bothered me that we hadn’t done it yet. He said (out of the blue), “I don’t consider you a friend first”. i can’t remember the exact words he used, but that was the gist of it.

I think I will end up playing the card very soon, what’s the worst thing that could happen?

Maybe my mind is working overtime…

Eric

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Go for it. Then have mindblowing sex. (or go ahead and wait some more, up to you. :wink: )

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If you feel it, then go ahead and say it.

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Nine dates and no sex. Oh my… :eek:

Kidding!

What Hal Briston said.

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Yeah, just do it. What’s the worst that could happen, you burst into flames or somethin’?

Joe

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My guess is that he wants sex (his comment that he “doesn’t consider you a friend first” is practically an open plea). If he wants the L word, he’ll say it first.