Does size matter if the looks are there?...

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Woo hoo, my first time posting! This board looked really interesting so I just had to join. Anyway, I was trying to think of a good topic to talk about and I decided to bring up something that’s been on my mind for a long time. I’m the kinda person who always wonders what other people are thinking and I have found myself many times wondering what guys REALLY think of big girls.

I’ll use myself as an example. I’m 24, of average height, been told often that I have a pretty face (I find it lacking, though :dubious: ), by people other than my parents. I’m clean, and smell nice (er, most of the time). Redeeming qualities: wacky (so I’ve been told) sense of humor, easygoing, cares about others. Apparently all these things have worked to my advantage because I’m getting married to a great guy in June.

Ok, now here’s the kicker, I’m built like an Amazon. And not really by choice. Let me explain. I’m not really “fat”; I do have a few pounds I don’t need, but I have, and have always had, a stocky build. I don’t eat junk food - it’s always disagreed with my seemingly delicate bowels - I tend to gravitate towards what my fiance calls “weird organic crap”. I also hate being sedentatry, I bike or walk wherever possible. My legs are solid muscle. I have an hourglass figure, but like I said, it’s Amazonian - Boobs that could punch holes through drywall (I think they’re TOO big, actually) I taper down in the waist although my waist is short and thick, then I widen out into full hips and the aforementioned She-Hulk legs. I AM very feminine though; I always wear makeup and jewellry, and skirts a lot.

Growing up, boys always told me I was ugly and fat, and that nobody would ever love me, and they even beat me up. It was always a gang of them against me, so I could never fight back because I was usually being held down by someone. This was a rotten time for me and it’s never really left my mind. Even as a teenager boys never showed any interest in me and showed disgust if I showed interest in them. Sometimes I really don’t know what my guy sees in me if I’m really that vile a creature, but I feel pretty lucky to have him.

What I guess I want to know from all you guys here is, honest opinion, if a girl is big or fat or whatever, as long as she has a decent personality and takes care of herself, would you still find her attractive? Or, do girls have to be skinny, perfect supermodels to warrant any attention? I think in my heart I’m hoping that people aren’t as shallow as society on the whole seems to be.

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Hey. I’m new around these parts too, at least as a poster. But I’ve been lurking for quite some time before that, and I’m afraid you’ve made a crucial mistake here that’s going to guarantee you a low number of responses.

The question you pose is perfectly valid and would probably lead to an interesting discussion, but unfortunately, your subject line makes it sound as though this is a “penis size” thread. Those have been done to death around here, and everybody (including me) is sick to death of them. Heck, the only reason I opened this thing was to subtly and snidely berate the OP for starting another one. You might want to try again, with a headline like Guys: can’t big girls get love too? , or something like that.

That said, I will now answer the question you actually asked. For me personally, a great deal of physical attraction is actually based in mental or emotional connection. I didn’t think my ex-girlfriend was attractive at all, until I became good friends with her, at which point she became the most beautiful girl I knew. I’ve had the same thing happen with other girls too, including one I found distinctly unattractive before I got to know her. Now, this mechanism would probably be hard-pressed to work on a 300-pound woman who was as wide as she was tall, but it doesn’t sound as if you’ve hit that level. You say you came about your current size naturally, which implies a genetically stocky frame as opposed to self-imposed obesity (which is simply disgusting, as well as a possible insight into the nature of the person in question). Girls who are simply “big” are definitely be within my acceptable range; the aforementioned girl I was interested in weighed as much as I do but was 1 1/2 inches shorter (I’m 5’11", 170 lbs). As I said, it’s a matter of getting to know them.

It must be noted, however, that this probably isn’t true for most guys, at least not to this degree. My tastes in many things are rather different from most of the guys I’ve ever talked to, and “who’s hot” discussions generally end up with me getting a whole lot of weird looks. But even if this type of perception is rare, it IS out there, and you’re bound to find a guy who’ll accept you eventually. Just keep on lookin’ :slight_smile:

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It IS an ambiguous subject line isn’t it?..I’ll do the ol’ copy-paste and try another thread…

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This is really more of a poll than a debate, but I’ll answer anyway. No, I would not find a big or fat woman attractive. However, that is just me.

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I don’t think that is a good idea. Just ask a mod to change the title and move the thread to IMHO.

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Oops, I did it before you posted this…too late. Well, maybe a mod can just delete this thread.

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IMHO,
It’d be instructional to note the relative dearth of songs praising the virtues of women with skinny bottoms.

I’m not saying, I’m just saying.
YMMV.

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Just ask for it to be moved.