Sorry for getting back late to my thread. Lots on my mind, obviously.
We went to a mediator a few days ago. The mediator is a lawyer who charges $5000 for the mediation. A second attorney was also in the room, he said it was his policy to do that. I was surprised he was a lawyer, I was expecting someone who knew divorce mediation and the law as far just that area. And the fee knocked me a bit.
He also said that we should each get our own lawyers, which also surprised me. I thought you used a mediator to keep the lawyers out of the room? Save money? Not start fights with the other lawyers?
So far all we’ve done is discuss what information he needs. We agree on a lot (not that CA gives you much choice) and had a list of assets and liabilities handy. An area of dispute is the family home, which I want to sell ASAP, she wants to wait until our son is out of school next school year, which I find excessive.
Anyway, he explained we’d provide even more info (of course) and he’d knock out a settlement agreement and we’d sit down when he was done in a few weeks.
So now I’m looking for a lawyer so we can proceed, and my wife also needs to. And finish the documents they requested (stuff like all money, all the furniture blah blah).