I should have said locked, not closed. But I’ll bet you a lottery ticket it will be locked, after the revelations by Equipoise, Junior Detective and dumbass.
can’t they simply delete (or edit out) that post, warn/ban equipoise, and let the discussion continue?
Hey, I like that. Unfortunately, our heroine seems to be lacking one of these.
Mental illness and mood disorder run in my family. Or, maybe, gallop.
I have a close female family member who suffers from Bipolar II, Narcissism and Borderline.
She’s pretty sick. Although you are not as sick as she is, RSS, I feel the need to point out to you that you exhibit a lot of those same symptoms.
Don’t think that you will automatically get custody of your little boys. Her child was taken from her at about 3 yrs old … nobody in the family has laid eyes on the child since. IIRC the girl is about 15 now. 
You need to take charge of your situation. NOW. Today was too late.
The buisness of the affair is a whole other thing from the buisness of the marriage.
Do the hard work to parse out what is right or wrong about the marriage. You must turn your back on the Lover in order to see clearly about what work is to be done.
To do otherwise is to doom yourself to repeating the same thing.
I have a link to a discussion group which helped my relative immensely. Email me and I will share it with you.
No, we’ve got to keep this straight. It’s Officer Friendly that she’s sucking, not her marriage. She doesn’t suck her drugs, but they help keep her from sucking her husband. I’m not sure about the pot.
Another one scared for life here. 
Hmm…bright and quick. This sentence really shows that… :rolleyes:
Oh good grief. 10 pages in and that’s the only thing that’s sunk in about why you feel so much misery. Who can but help but give a disgusted chuckle?
RSSchen, you are dumber than your husband’s toejam. I find it utterly amazing that a man as committed as your husband exists and wonder how he wound up with such a piece of dumb shit for his wife. Maybe it’s true that the good guys always finish last.
I reported that post to the Mods.
I also think that anyone even toying with the idea of printing this out and mailing it to my husband (and joyfully doing so) should be smacked with the wet noodle.
Let’s not get this fucker personal, OK? I realize that some info on me personally is on the net - you better believe that’s gonna change - and fast.
You junior detectives are quite adept in pointing this out, and for that I’m a bit grateful. But the behavior is totally contrary to the spirit of this board.
But not to your husband.
“Collect call to Kettle from a Mr. Pot…”
It is very personal to your husband and children.
RSSchen - *You’re * the one who put all this on the 'net. Maybe you aren’t as bright as you think. Page after page of telling you you’re behaving stupidly and all you take out of it is that you possibly have some mental disease that absolves you of any personal responsibility.
So let me ask you right now - are you still planning to continue cheating on your family? Are you planning to let it continue for years while your husband supports you? Has any of this sunk in?
I don’t use pit language. I’m not yelling at you. I’m just wondering if you have changed your mind.
StG
I agree with a lot of what you’re saying, but I think this example and this one:
…are kind of unneccesary. Sober mom or dad may have JUST as shitty of a day, or just as awesome of a day, and have the same kind of trouble connecting with an emotional opposite out of their kids.
P.S. on a previous point not raised by TokyoPlayer: I’ve never cheated on high school or college work and think less of people who have. If you cheat on that stuff, you are not only stupid, but LAAAAAAA-ZY!
What do you know about the spirit of this board, when you were so surprised and appalled with the response to your IMHO thread? If this were cheatersanonymous.com you’d be laughing all the way to your husband’s bank. Bitch.
I mostly just feel sorry for you now (and your family of course), because this Springer drama-fest seems genuine and you’re obviously damaged, stupid, clueless, an addict and you dug yourself into this hole. A piece of advice: I bet someone out there who was cheated on by… someone like you already has his/her fingers raw from googling so much, trying to track down your husband. You’re lucky TubaDiva is on hiatus. Remember that everytime he walks in the door.
What the hell, another freebie: lying works better when there isn’t a written permanent record of your own words a few clicks and scrolls away.
Few things annoy me more than idiots who think that having a mental ailment is used as an excuse to avoid responsibility. Until a few people suggested it, RSSchen hadn’t suspected she had such a thing. It’s not an excuse, it’s an explanation - or might be - for why she’s pursued a lot of unwise paths in her life. She’s already said she’s going to investigate the possibility. If indeed she’s got a condition of some sort, that could mean that she needs more intensive treatment than she’s already had which could, in turn, help her change her behaviour.
Mental ailments by their very nature can affect people’s judgement, emotions, and even power of will. However most are treatable. It’s pretty ignorant to think that people can overcome such conditions by willpower alone. And all the abuse in the world won’t help them do so, either.
Heh, from what I was told in high school, the guys’ locker room stunk something fierce-because a bunch of them used to pee in the furnace.
YES. Ok, yes. I have reconsidered after much thought and all of y’alls roasting has sunk in. OK? No more fucking around until my head is straight.
I kinda resent the folks though that say I’m not off of the drugs. That was a horrid situation and my life fell apart at the time with a nervous breakdown. I’m clean, and I mean it.
Wait a minute-SHE gave us the info, all Equipoise did was say he confirmed it. Other Dopers have done likewise. Yeah, he threatened to spill the beans, but I’m sure he’s not the only one.
That’s the risk you take when you post all this shit online.