Toying with the idea, ya say? Heck I toyed with the idea. I would never hunt through previous posts or try to get personal information in any way–even in a totally easy and legal manner. Nor do I have your husband’s contact information. Even if I had access to Cecil’s magic rolodex, I’d be legally and ethically bound not to use that information. So it’s not a threat. But I’ve been in his position before, and I’ve got plenty of sympathy for him. And if I somehow ran into him in an elevator and, for whatever reason, figured out who he was, you can bet we’d be discussing this thread, the SDMB, and some searches he ought to do. And I’d be hooking him up with a referral to the best divorce lawyer in town.
I doubt I’d enjoy it. He’d be sad. But at least he’d have a shot at not supporting a cheater anymore.
Do you think you’ve got some sort of right not to be outed for cheating? Why?
By anonymous people on a message board I’ve frequented for more than five years? Absolutely. Now, if someone IRL happened upon this and decided to do so, that’s their prerogative, but people I don’t even know have no business threatening me like that.
Is that even allowed or acceptable here? I think those threatening to meddle in my private life and throwing that intent in my face should be moderated.
Did I miss a username change announcement? Why was that allowed? I thought we weren’t allowed to run from our stupid posting choices by changing our usernames.
I’d imagine one can find a lot more on Google searching “RSSchen” than “MizGrand.” IMO, however, changing one’s board name and then posting in the same threads does not suggest she’s trying to hide particularly well.
Once it’s on the Internet, it cannot be deleted. It’s on cache servers, it’s on people’s hard drives, and it’s on websites that you can’t edit. There’s no way to put that toothpaste back in the tube.
If she actually thinks that it’s possible to remove information about herself from the internet, she’s definitely not as bright as she thinks. She could delete everything she personally put online (theoretically, since she’d need someone else to delete what she posted here), and it wouldn’t matter. Ten years from now, it would still be out there. That’s the nature of the Internet. Once you put something on it, you can never get it back.
Yeah, and I wonder if she realizes that you can still search on her old name and come up with posts she’s either been referenced in or has been quoted in. So a name change is a 50% solution.
I’m betting her user name had some connection to her real life (so that her husband would easily be able to connect it to her), so she’s changing in order to further hide her deceit from him or her real life acquaintances.
That sounds pretty obvious all written out :smack: . I mean it’s probably like my user name…if you know me in real life it’s obvious how I came up with it and it’s a nickname my husband uses for me, as well. If my husband decided to read the SDMB, he’d know instantly that my posts were mine.
