You are exactly right on the grammar, but wrong on the identification of wankers. Once you’ve had the others shot, you shall certainly no longer be a wanker, as the one-eyed man is king among the blind. 
I think you might get a stronger reaction to “hold my purse”.
I think it’s fine right there. Or maybe next to me.
If I need to hold it so you can rummage through it, that’s different, or to help you juggle bags, ok, but I’m not standing there and holding it so I look like I’m just beginning to explore my wider clothing/accessory options.
What makes me roll my eyes is the attitude of “it’s just a purse, silly” from women who basically wouldn’t dream of being “butch” enough to check their own car’s oil. And even if you do check it, you can set the purse right next to me. It’s plenty safe enough there.
My ex-wife used to make me hold her purse all the time. Usually it would be when she needed to use the restroom at a concert or a play etc…
Of course when I did so I would stare people down with a psycho crazed look in my eye. Almost as if to say “Come on! I dare ya’! Make ONE snide comment or smirk and I’ll fold you like a cheap lawn chair.”
OK I’m kidding. Seriously, I don’t see what the big deal is. The worst some one could think of me is I’m either a cross dresser or gay. To tell you the truth I could care less what strangers think of me and I’ve been called alot worse,. so there ya have it.
Dunno… in a healthy relationship, I think both partners would exercise more concern and care for each other than they do for themselves; if it all works out, this should create a prosperous balance, rather than a simple economical division.
Or to put it another way; suppose there’s a cake to be shared; you could measure it and divide it exactly in half, then guard your own halves jealously, making sure that you don’t get less than your fair share…
… or you can just cut a generous slice and offer it to your partner first, then cut yourself a slice, and get on with the enjoyment of eating cake, without worrying about who got the bigger share. If you both try to put each other first, nobody should end up feeling cheated - if one gets a few crumbs more than the other, who cares?; it’s just cake - there will be another one along shortly.
I suspect a nontrivial amount of wishful thinking here.
But unless you were bullied by the girls, why would this affect you in this situation? I was bullied, but that hasn’t made me sensitive to my SO being more successful than I. I have a bigger problem (though still microscopic) with men showing me up, and that might come from being bullied.
Please speak for yourself, not in generalities. We mortal men hate that.
Like others, I think the described situation is more along the lines of not treating your husband like a lackey. I like it when I’m better than her at some things, but she’s better than me at some. Complementary skills and interests are better than identical ones, in my opinion.
My fiancee’s English is much better than my Japanese. She’s a Flamenco dance teacher, I trip over my own feet unless it involves acrobatics or fighting. She can kick my ass with number games, mental arithmetic, and recognizing long strings of numbers at a glance. I can’t remember dates at all, to the point where she has to remind me of my own birthday sometimes. She can spot street signs and shop signs way before I even recognize what she’s talking about. On the other hand, I have a good sense of direction so I almost never get lost, while she inevitably turns the wrong direction and has no idea where one point is in relation to another. She has to go step-by-step in problem solving while I skip ahead, work on both sides of the problem at once, or immediately see the solution. I can fix things and build things, she can’t get something back together even if she’s the one who took it apart. She’s got dexterity, I’ve got strength.
We have different skills and weaknesses. Most of the things I’m bad at, she can cover, and vice versa. If we had completely overlapping areas I think we wouldn’t make as strong a couple. As it is, there’s enough overlap for us to have some things in common while having very different areas of competence.
If I were better than her at everything, I’d probably have just nailed her for a while and dumped her when I found someone better. I don’t like dumb or useless people in general and I’d have no use for a woman who had nothing to offer me or any possible children. If I were with a woman who overshadowed me in everything I’d probably be the one dumped, or if by some miracle she didn’t get rid of me, I’d eventually feel bad enough about myself to get out of the relationship.
On a related note, losing in a contest or feeling defeated depresses testosterone production while winning or feeling competent increases it. Men are literally unmanned if they constantly feel inferior. Few normal, mentally healthy men would stand a situation like that for long. Few women would want a man who had a low sex drive, lack of ambition, and a too-calm demeanor due to depressed testosterone levels, in my opinion.