I came in to say this, but it’s already been said.
And the latter scenario seems most likely to me, because there are likely to be some emotional barriers to the idea of losing that much weight, and she may not want to continue. So if she can manufacture an excuse for him to stop the MMA, then he has an excuse to stop the weight loss. And if he can stop losing weight, she can too.
Or, she may even feel that she might lose him even if she does lose the weight, once he’s in shape and potentially desirable to other women.
Maybe she may be losing the weight, loving the new-found attention from some other guy, and could be laying the groundwork for an exit strategy.
“Your honor, my client said publicly as early as August 2010, that she felt threatened. We feel she is entitled to 100% of the shows earnings, any and all royalties, both cars, and sole ownership of the family home.”
Or
Maybe none of the above at all. There’s just not enough supporting information either way.
Agreed. He could have demolished her at any time prior to the start of his training schedule. Being generous, he probably has anywhere from 75 to 100 lbs of muscle on her besides the fat weight. Either fake-o drama or a poor joke.
To the poster who mentioned that it would absurd to fear anyone who only had four months of training: Four months of intense training is more than enough to teach a rank novice how to take apart your average joe. It only takes a few weeks to teach good striking theory.
.Based only on the info in this thread, she sounds like a nut. At the start of the show he was a foot taller and 100 pounds heavierand in relatively better shape. If he wanted to hurt her he doesn’t need kung fu. Of course there may be more to the story.
I am a martial artist. If he is taking instruction from someone with a grounding in traditional martial arts, there shouldn’t be a problem. However, her statement tends to indicate that he’s not. Or possibly that she’s just a ditz who hasn’t bothered to be supportive of her husband and learn a little bit about what he is doing.
My initial reaction is that instead of sitting on the couch, the husband is doing all his fancy martial arts moves around the house, and she finds it a little scary. Also, along with his weight loss, comes a rise in male hormone levels, and he may be behaving with more aggression than she’s used to.
After reading this and the wife saying she was afraid of voicing her opinions, I started thinking maybe he was the “hen-pecked” husband. My grandmother “voiced her opinions” to my grandfather by screaming and being aggressive. If the weight loss & MMA training has improved his self-confidence, maybe she sees that as a threat to her control of him, thus making her “afraid” of treating him like she has in the past.
But didn’t some little part of you say in Jan Brady’s voice: “Marsha! Marsha! Marsha!” wen you read the typo?
Anyway, the statement just made me go: :rolleyes:
Years ago, I did met someone who found out I was taking martial arts at the time. She (a middle aged woman who worked with my mom) thought that martial arts encouraged violence, and therefore people taking martial arts were more prone to be violence. So basically, she thought martial arts training is the human equivalent of attack dog training. So that if you were trained to hurt people it’s because you were planning on hurting people.
It’s true that thugs like to take up combat sports. But the’re thugs to begin with, they didn’t become thugs from the sport. Secondly, thugs don’t last long in martial arts classes because the classes are too disciplined. Most thugs get bored by the repetition (what they want is “Fight Club” not “Exercise Club”) so they quit.
I won’t say the woman is totally off her rocker I just think she is naive and maybe a little dumb.
I came here to post something like this (if not as well-phrased).
Male here, in long-term relationship. If my wife ever said she was afraid of me, that relationship would be over, I think; if I ever gave her cause to, it would be for sure.
This. I’d never lay a hand on my wife*, but if I wanted to knock her around a bit, or worse, I wouldn’t need any special training to do it.
She’s probably right about average in terms of athletic ability for her size, age group and gender. I’m probably below average (relatively physically fit, but not very strong).
Are they both losing weight equally? If not, maybe she’s pissed that he’s losing weight and becoming more fit at a quicker pace (and possibly easier) than she is, hence some sort of passive aggressive nonsense.
IIRC, men tend to be plagued by visceral fat (fat around internal organs) and women struggle more with subcutaneous fat (fat below the skin like a layer of insulation). Subcutaneous fat is harder to lose, I’ve been told (and I’m not sure by whom so take it with a grain of salt - I could have read it in a nutrition article or heard it from an imbecile at the gym). So a married couple will start losing weight well together and then the woman might slow down once she’s burned through all the visceral fat and then starts to work off the insulation.
Years ago, I got laid off from a job; the package included the services of a job-placement agency. So one day I’m speaking with one of the agents, and he asks me about interview questions I find difficult. I say when they ask about your hobbies: if I say “mountaineering” and the other person has never done it, they think about it as a solitary sport (I’ve never done it with less than twelve other people); if I mention any of the nerdy stuff, they’re likely to file me under “F for Freak” (hello, I’m an engineer, nerdiness is to be expected)… He says nah, it’s not that bad.
I ask how many of his coworkers know he practices kendo.
He goes white as a paper and freaks out, “God, not a one! I tell them it’s a fishing pole! Oh my God…”
“Right, so you don’t think your coworkers are going to be able to take kendo in stride and you expect candidates to own up to mountaineering, DnD or simulated fighting. U-hu. And by the way, the reason I recognized that green nylon sleeve as being a sheath for a sinai is that I have done a bit of kendo myself, so please do stop shaking.”
My money is on “she’s one of those people who hear ‘martial arts’ and think ‘violent freak’, not ‘Olympic athlete’”.
I’ve trained in mixed martial arts for years, and cross trained in several other combat sports and combative arts. When I asked my wife if she ever felt “less comfortable voicing her opinion in the house” or “less safe” because of it, she laughed out loud. Then she kept laughing for quite a long while.
Exactly. Once they find out that training competitively means grueling daily workouts and giving up drinking and smoking, the novelty tends to wear off quickly.
